BREAK-UP ALERT
6 signs he's about to dump you
[ Attention : Girls are most recommended to read this so that you can ditch him first! ]
Breaks-ups almost always take us by surprise. And once we've finally gotten over our exes, stopped crying on our friends' shoulders and finished drowning our sorrors in a sea of chocolate cake, we often wonder why we never saw it coming. In hindsight, it's amazing that we could miss the little tell-tale clues which were really giant warning bells. Hints which signalled that our relationship was on an express train headed straight out.
Instead of cruising through your relationship with your head in the sand, keep an eye out for these top six red alert signals which are hints he's ready to move on. If you can spot three or more in your relationship, something's obviously amiss and it's time to decide whether your relationship is worth saving. Most importantly, if your partner is guitly of all six, it's definitely time to give him a flick. If you don't it's only a matter of time before you're the one who gets dumped.
WORK IS HIS NEW PASSION
Meetings, conferences and late nights at the office are the most common excuses guys use if they want to get out of something. If you realise that your boyfriend suddenly has a new-found passion for work, look at the real reason behind this enthusiasm. Okay, if he's recently had a promotion or started a new job, then give him the benefit of the doubt. But, if he couldn't wait to get out of work when you first started dating, but now says he needs to "work late", "prepare for tomorrow's meeting", or "go away for a weekend conferencce", then the alarm should start ringing.
FUTURE-PHOBIA
Remember the days when it was safe to plan going to a party next month, or even going on holiday next year. A classic characteristic most potential ditches exhibit is a unique ability to be vague about the future. Chances are, this is because he plans to be long gone from the scene by then, so doesn't want to commit to anything - particularly if it involves money, like buying tickets to a play, or putting a deposit down for a vacation.
TECHNOLOGY BREAKDOWN
If you find yourself suddenly becoming intimate with your boyfriend's voicemail, or resorting to emails in order to communicate with him, then it sounds like he's avoiding you. Even though technology is supposed to make life easier, it can also be used as a great wayto screen calls and dodge emails. Caller ID means that one look at his handphone 's displaycan tell him he can use the excuse : "Oh I didn't hear my phone go off". And emails are great because he can say, "I didn't log on today" or even better, "Are you sure you sent it? It wasn't in my mailbox"
THE SILENT TREATMENT
A lack of communication is a big sign your relationship is on the rocks. If you find yourself only talking to each other to arrange domestic tasks, it looks like you've reach Rut Central. Someone says toward the end of the relationship, making conversation with her boyfriend was like getting blood from a stone.
SOMETHING'S COMING UP
An early sign of a pending break-up is when you find your boyfriend cancelling on you at the last minute. Basically, it not only shows he's not interested, it's also evidence of a complete lack of respect for you. Same goes for being constantly late for appointments, but never apologising for it.
SHIFTING RESPONSIBILITY
The trouble with a lot of men is they're cowards when it comes to breaking up. They said, we're just as guitly of exactly the same thing. After all, no one wants to be seens as the bad guy. Instead of risking that, we might hurt someone else's feelings, too many of us plod along in relationships, subconsciously sending out signals in the vain hope that our partner will pick up on them.
CONCLUSION
Think about this. If your partner starts avoiding you, criticising you, or making you a low priority in his life, then he's probably trying to tell you something. Your first instinct may be to want to save the situation, but stop and think about it for a while. Do you really want to hang out with someone who doesn't want to be with you or makes you feel inloved?
All these signs add up to one big passive - but effective - break-up tecnique. And although it may seem spineless for him to act this way, perhaps this is one time you should give him what he wants - and dump him first. You might loath to give in, but you're also potentially saving yourself months of frustration if you wait around for him to finally have the ourage to break up with you. Don't think of it as admitting degeat. Instead, consider that you're beating him to the finishing line - and getting a head start on the rest of your life.
----[ Adapted from, CLEO magazine. Changes made by, the owner of this website. ]----