Social Success

This is the page that I least would have liked to write since it boasts on things that are just impressions and not anything really trustworthy. But since those impressions were so strong and abundant at one time of my life, I feel oblidged to write these pages of mine. I write also because my ideas are worth getting to know. I feel that I owe to the world that I explain them so that others can use them if they judge them worth that.

I do not know whether one can write about oneself like this but I want to sell my ideas, the excellent moral to You, so:

There is a singer called Kaija Koo and the words of some of her songs (in the album Tuulikello = Wind bell (a string instrument played by the wind)) describe well what kind of social feedback, social atmosphere I got when I used a social style according to this theory perspective of mine:

"This is not enough,
it will not stop like this
to your next life
I aim to find"


"do you know that you are
the heaven inside me
when my old heaven turned out to be just a theater scene

do you hear it shouting
the voice of eternity
it is the sound of love

do you know that you visited
my soul
I do not know even myself to have been there

I think that I saw you
somewhere before
as child when I believed in miracles".


What was my own role then like? It was more like Eva Dahlgren's song Ängeln i rummet, The angel in the room:

"...There lives another one in my body (meaning: not somewhat ugly social relationships like usual but the result of following beautiful feelings)
who is one of the most beautiful ones in the whole world
She is love and hope
And she tells you
how much I love you..."


This IS true. Please try yourself!



And how to get this to work in practise? By making the other one to get a grasp of the right way to live, there will be natural friendliness born out of that right kind of state of mind. By it you can overcome many unfriendly uncounters. It is like in a song by Eva Dahlgren: Kanske för minnenas skuld, Maybe for memories' sake.

"I do not like you!

Look, how beautiful it is outside
snowflakes falling (getting grasp of the right mood)...

I do not like you!

Maybe for memories' sake
Maybe for love (building on good things)..."

To be clear, it is the role of a teacher in the art of living. It brings enjoyment unimaginable compared to the ordinary social life with all its unfriedliness.


To be clear: This does not mean that I would have been so much interested in the others, I was more interested in life and in my hobbies, the others were not friendly enough - the others were very much interested in me instead. And it does not mean that I would have been in a subservient role toward others helping them like this. Instead it was a very much dominant role of deciding the rules for the social life. And what an nice atmosphere it did bring: see the first thought on my main page www.paradisewins.net/index.html.


But what was this like to me? It was like the song This Night by Kaija Koo:

"This night - I will take everything out of it
I will take more than what is my part
I will dance, sing and drink
and the extra round I will bring to my table

When you are there and eat me with your eyes
I will dance and my shoes will spark
the white wine will wash the past away
and I will ride the wave of love

This night, I will take everything out of it
I will take everything, so I will do
White wine, the night deep blue
I glow in the flame of love"

This is what life is like. This I want to share with you all. That's why I write. Please read at least my main page www.paradisewillwin.info and try to endure through my book Hard Rationality of Feelings and Instincts which you get for free at these pages at /HRFI.html . It could really give all this to you - in practise!

(And no, this wasn't pink. This was with all, kind of light apricot and white...)