Here's a question from one hell of a guy, Kyle, on 3/19/01

    I have been on the dating scene for a couple years now and I have found every girl except one to be incredibly shallow people who will use you at the drop of a hat(exactly what many girls complain guys do). I have noticed that with every disappointment I become more like them. Is love worth it? Is it worth it to pursue love if by the time you find it you have been changed into someone so afraid of being hurt that you don't recognize it and someone so shallow that you don't really care that you missed it?

    Love is worth it. But love is also very illusive. Of course you won't know love till you pursue it. And sometimes we make mistakes and it isn't the Real Mc Coy. But heck... what if it is? This "what if" will always keep even the most pessimistic hoping. Hopeless may be hopeless and crushes crushing but we still continue. This game has been the same for years and always will be. Trial and error till you find the right fit. The person that makes you smile with out even doing a thing. Call it sexual attraction call it soul mate what ever but once you find it all you want is more.

    So if the question is "Should I pursue love?" Of course... Everyone is afraid of being hurt. And most times it is inevitable whether on purpose by our significant other or not. But also don't fool yourself thinking you're in love when you aren't... I'm sure most of those girls fooled themselves into thinking they were in love until they realized they were wrong and it was too late. Humans have the tendency to when the fall to fall deep and when they hit bottom it's too late. *I like that analogy :P* So don't be afraid to love but also don't say love too easily. Keep a steady mind and heart even if your heart is jumping out of your chest.

    "'Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all."