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winter semester sucksss! my schedule is super shitty and I have tonnes of holes in it, and I'm not even taking any 500 level classes :( at least I have 5.. well I'm going to span203 (intermediate) and if I don't like this teacher more than the one I had yesterday I'm going to drop it (the book is like $170!!! and you have to buy it new and nobody wants to buy a used one because you need the code for online testing).
Anyhow... Bjorn has been in Australia, got back yesterday. Right after he left I started seeing Dane (English guy). He's really nice and we went out a few times, had a couple movie sleepovers (we both slept in full clothes hahahaha). We drove to Canmore to get his mail and he came with me to look at showhomes one day. He's a little more sarcastic than I prefer, he just jokes around all the time and as someone who has a few insecurities such joking makes me feel overly sensitive.
Then I met Eddie and I was really excited to go out a few times with him, as of today it's been one week since we met. We went to Jamesons for wings and he was very outgoing and chatty. i really liked that he was half Chilean and half German and raised by his German mum. He's kind of like an only child because all of his half-brothers/sisters are >30 so he pretty much grew up alone. We seemed to have a lot of similar life stories and we both like to go out and have a good time. We met wednesday, and I joined him at the Roadhouse Thursday. He was pretty loaded and I had a few and we went back to his house. I was hesitant but he's a chubbier guy and really sweet so I asked him waht he wanted and he said "anything" hahahah "that's not what I meant" so he said "whatever you want" I assumed he knew I wanted dating (from our prior conversations and my profile) and we hooked up a few times from then to now. Then Saturday I picked him up from the bar on my way home and we snuggled and had a sleepover... but I was kind of bummed that he was so drunk and kept bringing up all the crazy stuff they had done that night, including girls he had been dancing with and a reactionary comment he made to a coworker who was implying he was slutty "I fucked two girls in the bathroom, one on the dancefloor, and one when I get home" he said it to shut her up... but was I just the one waiting when he got home? I felt kind of stupid for going out of my way to get him but I enjoyed the cuddle time and nothing happened. Then we hung out yesterday, we watched a movie and held hands, kissed and snuggled and I felt I had to ask him again what he was looking for before it got too heavy. He basically said that he hadn't had his party phase growing up because of girlfriends and being religious (becoming a mormon and not going out or partying for two years). He said that he just started that phase of his life and he wasn't really looking for dating. I understood but it was hard, I felt like we had a really genuine connection, and I was ready to call off my single-and-loving-it phase. I guess it was the hardest because he called our time together 'dates' and held my hand and went out of his way to send me cute text messages. He had told me he really liked me and was into me too, and I felt a little deceived. Today I feel a lot better and I apologized for saying a few semi-rude things after the fact. I really had just been off-the-cuff about how I felt used and deceived and I was hurt that he said he wished we had met later because I'm an awesome girl. I guess this is just one of those things I have to learn from. today I'm really back in good spirits and I'm thankful it was just one week. I'll just have to be more guarded next time I suppose.
Oh, me and Rono went out for shisha on Saturday :) it was really nice to sit and talk to him and know that neither of us was threatened by the other hahaha. We had a really good long talk and caught up on a lot of things. I still think of him as one of my best friends, I wonder if he would think that's weird? I wonder if he feels the same? I found out his sister and John are going to have a baby in about 7 months too! It seems like a lot of good things are happening with his family now and I'm very happy that they've had better news since his Grandmother's passing. I'm still nervous for Ron though, he said he jaw surgery is in two weeks, and he actually sounded nervous about it now. the whole time it was me tha was trying to convince him he should be more worried about it, that he didn't need it, but now that he seemed worried I had to pretend that it would be great. I reassured him that even if he had his jaw wired shut he would be okay, he thought he would lose about 15 pounds (that's what the doctor said) and I told him all about my friend Travis who had his jaw broken and wired shut twice hahaha. I missed the Rono
At pauly D after seeing Bj outside turning his back and all that garbage, and the "stfu" text that I may have overreacted to (calling him a cunt and a butterface bahaha) we patched thingsup at his combo birthday party with Steve. It was a double kegger and we had them both finished by 2am hahaha and there were not that many of us. But ya BJ was ripped out of his mind and we talked and things were okay. Then as the night progressed he started talking like we were dating and when we slept next to eachother in Brad's room (like old times haha) he said "it's just you and me against the world!" uhh we hadn't talked in like over a month and I was for sure already dating other people and moved on. That shipped has sailed friend! Very awkward. But then he really wanted to start things up again and he kept telling me how hard it was not talking to me, and I brought up how I had tried to apologize and contact him several times with no reply. Apparently he was upset I didn't ask more people about him or why he was mad, are we 5 here wtf? I thought I knew so I accepted what happened and respected that he didnt' want to talk to me and moved on with my life. Anyways we went out a few times and to another hockey game, and I offered to drive him to the airport when he left go to home for Christmas (to Perth). He originally said he had a ride and the day before he left he called and asked if I would drive him. I was up pretty early that day and asked if he wanted to do lunch before his flight, he said yes and I motored over to his place to find that he had to still go drop off his stuff in storage, and go drop off his work van down edge of the universe south and then we barely had time ot grab a coffee and food before his flight. And of course I had to stay with him until he could board, and then when he messed up his visa app. what a mess.
Italo. so we had broken up in dec 2009 and then been off and one to February and then sort of just intimate after that but with no string attached. I think the last time was during the Stampede so July. and then we fought off and on so there were periods where wer just didn't talk. I went up for Sonicboom and decided to drop him a line because i thought it would be rude if he found out i was there and didnt even say hi. But he took almost a full day to reply and I lost my shit, it aggrevated me that he coudln't even respond in a reasonable amount of time to be polite. So we stopped talking for a few months and out of the blue I decided I wanted to talk to him again when I was in town for the National Rodeo Finals (right near his house). I had said I wanted to grab a bite to eat, and instead he ate right befor comign and showed up to get me like 45 minutes late (I wasn't driving because my license was still suspended so Shivonne and Kyle had to wait with me). Then he didn't want to go and sit anywhere and we ended up driving around, like he didn't want to talk the time to talk, just to say hi and drop me off. In fact he made a point nof telling me he had plans later so we would need to cut it short. I was really hurt, and I know I hurt him too but it was still hard. he just kept saying how it was so easy for me to move on, but it wasn't as easy as he thinks. Its hard to explain but I felt like it would be easier for him to move on if he thought I was, so I always acted like I was fine. The distance definately helped but I was still lonely too. That's probably why I reached out to him again, it's nice to know that someone still wants you, but that wasn't what this was. And I just started crying, I felt so stupid. I told him I hadn't slept with anyone in the 6 months since we were together, and it was true, but I don't think he believed me. And I definately never thought the same would be true for him, but I thought it might mean something to him... I don't think it did.
Then I was on Ryu's facebook one day playing games and Italo came on and was really chatty. he was in a really good mood and was adamant that I wish my mom and step dad a merry Christmas from him. He didn't do much replying to me after the first 2 minutes but it was nice to talk to him. I told him that I was coming up for the 30th for a concert and we should get together and patch things up, because there had been so much miscommunication via text and all. He didn't really say much about it and I didn't think too much on it then, but I wished him a happy birthday in advance, and then looking at his page I realized he was throwing himself a huge birthday party, probably the first he's ever had in Canada (since he's always in Peru for the holidays). I was a little upset I wasn't invited, but I thought maybe he jut forgot. I told him to have fun at his party and I signed off (he wasn't replying anyways). The day before I get in to Edmonton I sent him a text and asked if he wanted to hookup. Secretly I wanted to get together and seduce him hahahaha but I knew it probably wouldn't work out that way. He replied and said that he thought we should stay friends but that now wasn't a good time to hangout because he was in a new relationship. It really upset me and I'm still not totally sure for what reasons. I freaked out and sent a few rude text messages "Seriously?" "your mother must be so proud" etc. but then I eventually sent a sort of rebuttal, along the lines of "I understand you've moved on but we both agreed it was good to stay friends because we're still important to eachother, so I don't think I can be an invisible friend." He had always made such a big deal about remaining really good friends even if we weren't dating and it really hurt that now he was ready to just move on and leave me completely behind. He had said he wanted to stay friends, but he would never come down just to visit me, I was surprised he came down for Stampede but he said that was because he felt he needed to one last time (and it wasn't even totally on friends premise either). So here I was, in his town again, and he couldn't even be bothered to come see me. I don't care if other people are there even, but I was just really really hurt. He didn't reply to any of my texts so I left it. I got together with Alannah before the show and we all chatted about our lives, and especially about her and Javier's breakup. I was so happy fpr her they had been together for like 4 years, since she was 16!! I thought that he didn't appreciate her as much as he should, and treated her kind of like she was still 16. I had secretly thought that she should see waht life was like outside of their relationship, like she had missed something dating one guy for so long through such important teenage years, and now she was partying it up haaard! It made me happy she was doing so well, but I didn't expect that Javier would take it so hard; he talked about girls he was with before her, even in front of her. Then we got on the topic of Italo and I asked if his new gf was spanish hahahaha she said they were and I was genuinely happy they were the same brand of crazy. Alannah said that she was really jelous, and had freaked out at Kim and Alannah for being friends with me since I'm Italo's ex gf, Alannah laughed and said she had to explain that we were friends for a fair amount of time and went to Mexico together even. I was relieved that I wasn't the crazy one anymore! I don't even know her name or anything about her and she already knows who I am, what I look like, and is pissed that I'm writing on our mutual friend's facebook walls hahahahahahahah! Aaah how perfect, someone as jelous as he is. I genuinely think that it's a good thing that he's dating spanish, and when we use to fight I always told him he should date someone spanish because I just wasn't cut out for that type of relationship. I guess I was relieved and somewhat satisfied, I want him to be happy, I really do... I just still remained kind of hurt that we wouldn't be able to remain friends anymore, and I guess it bothers me that he had found a girlfriend so fast.
I always seem to jump into relationships and this is probalby the first time I haven't done that, that I haven't looked for someone right away, haven't forced a relationship... it felt good for so long but now I'm getting kind of lonely and I guess the timing was just bad, it looked like he moved on and was happy before I was and I don't know that has ever happened to me. I am not good at dealign with breakups so I usually kind of overlap the end of relationships with the start of a new one; the backup plan. But this was different... I'm way more upset about this than I should be, but I seem to wait until my ex's have finally moved on and then try to win them back almost knowing that it won't ever happen, and then get rejected and feel like shit (and give them an egoboost about outdoing me, when it appeared originally that I had moved on first). Sooo stupid.
So Shivonne and I went to see Deadmau5 and Calvin Harris (at a 16+ show) and it turns out it was a rave hahahaha who knew! I think we were some of the oldest people there and definately the only people who weren't drunk or high hahahahah very interesting group of people to observe. It was actually kind of fun to stay sober! Especially since I knew I was going to be the Aunty and Godmother to that special little baby a-brewing! It made me realize though that it was really difficult to sleep on a futon when not wasted hahah, and when thinking about said ex :S
Aaaah I'm so excited for Shivonne and Kyle though!!! It was so out of the blue, she was on the patch and still got pregnant! i knew as soon as she told me, and said that she had told her mom, that she was keeping it. And at first I was in denial. I'm a pretty selfish person and all I could think aboutwas how much it was going to change OUR lives. And how much it was going to change my life, what about the trips we planned? The drinking we partook in? The drugs we did? What about our partying? But then I realized that this was going to make our lives better, it was going to bring them together, and jut be different -- not bad. Now I'm so jacked up about the baby, and absolutely delighted and thrilled that I'm not just an Auntie but also going to be Godmother!!! Not that that means a ton these days other than sentimental, which means the most to me :)
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I think I ponder on it too much because I wonder if he turned his ringer on for her, when he wouldn't with me... if he added her on fb and started seeing her when we were still seeing eachother off and on... if he goes out with her when he wouldn't with me, goes to see her all the time like he wouldn't with me... will tell her he loves her, when he wouldn't tell me...
was it all a lie? Did he cheat on me? How could I ever know...
Growing up I remember finding my dads Playboys and secretly reading them after my parents went to sleep, or before they got up in the morning. Then one day years later in my childhood I came across a hidden stash of my mothers Playgirls (probably all from the 80s) and I remember not being as excited to find them. I think at the time I attributed it to them being so outdated and having lesser articles and comics (as if that was really the reason), but I never looked at them as much as the Playboys. And I thought everyone sneaked a peak at their dadâs smut magazines, I mean they were always more readily available than your momâs right?
My parents knew before I knew. I remember them approaching me when I was probably 16 or so, and saying âWe know youâre gay Shelbyâ and I denied it, I was in total shock and they kept saying âitâs okay we know, we know! We love you, and we know.â But I denied it even then.
And I remember having a sleepover with my best girl friend, and I could feel that the tension between us was mounting and it all culminated in this one sleepover we had. We always slept in the same bed, but on this night in particular everything was different, and I somehow was scared. I felt like she was going to make a move this time and I didnât know what I would do. It was extremely subtle but it was there and I was terrified. I pretended to sleep and nothing at all happened, but at the same time a lot happened. The next day she said to me that she had felt if anything was ever going to happen she thought it would have happened that night, and I knew exactly what she meant. Even my mom asked what had happened that night, because in the morning she faced two very muted, very distant teens, where normally there would be two over-poweringly bubbly girls. We both later came out as queer and I often regret not having embraced it at an earlier age.
When youâre a teenager inundated with media messages I think itâs harder to come to terms with being gay. I remember reading teen magazines and there being articles (and I mean more than a few) on how having a crush on a girl or woman was normal for teen girls and didnât mean that you were gay; it just meant you envied that person and wanted to be like them. I felt sort of relieved by this I guess, because it meant I didnât have to question myself as different, but at the same time I blame the media for things like that, that kind of tricked me into believing I wasnât really queer for all those years.
One of my boyfriends just after highschool tried to convince me too. After our breakup he said he knew I liked women, and I denied the claim vehemently thinking he was blaming our breakup on me being gay⦠but when I did come out as queer he was incredibly supportive of me and it was then that I realized he told me he knew out of support; because he wanted to help me, not hurt me.
When I came out to my family it was kind of an accident. I had been on a really bad vacation with a friendâs family and when I got home I was recounting all the details to my mom while we were at a wakeboard festival in our town, and I just blurted out that I was sure my friend had treated me so badly on our trip because I was more interested in dating a girl than him. My mom almost died in that moment I think, probably because she had been so sure years prior but I had denied it to myself for so long and convinced her too. Itâs like it came without warning and it hit her really hard. But months later I came out to my dad over drinks and he was absolutely fine with it! The person I feared telling the most, the most conservative of my two parents, completely supported me. But then forgot I had told him, until I (again?) accidentally outted myself? I guess he had had a lot of beers that night and the conversation had been forgotten until he was trucking a bunch of my friends and myself down to a club for my birthday celebration and I started talking about my ex-girlfriend. He was upset everyone but him knew until I reminded him of our previous conversation and then he went back to his bubbly acceptance of the fact and asked why I hadnât brought any of these ladies over to the house haha!
Knowing who you are is the foundation for the rest of your life.Â
âYou are so much more than your sexual orientationâ Adam Lambert
Itâs easy to be heterosexual, itâs hard to come out, and to embrace homosexuality, and youâre stronger for doing it. It gets better.
It Gets Better Canada:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5p-AT18d9lU
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I was cleaning out my email (cluttered with forwards and club/school emails) and came across lots of hostile or emotional emails from a variety of people; Desiree, Rohw...
Thought I should save these if I haven't already...
From: me
To: rohw
Subject: hurrow
Date: Mon, 24 Mar 2008 18:44:13 -0600
Thanks a lot for coming out for coffee with me today. I was just leaving Maria's house (well, her brother's house) and I was really upset and I couldn't think of anyone I wanted to call or see but you. I don't want you to take that the wrong way, I just still feel like you're the closest person I have - and I often worry that, that might change. I really like that we can get together and just talk about things and it doesn't seem to be too weird. I still really miss you all the time, but I'm trying really hard to not call or message you much, sometimes I have my relapses though; like today. It sounds horrible, but I felt like crap when you said how amazing your week had been - you really deserve an amazing week, an amazing year, an amazing life - I'm just sad that I'm not really a part of that anymore.Â
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Anyways I'm kind of rambling, what I really wanted to say was that you can "borrow" Ryu whenever you want, for a day, a weekend, whatever - anytime. He isn't really my dog anyways, I was thinking about it and I really feel that he is our dog, even though he has always lived at my house. I guess that's hard to explain but you helped me name him, and raise him, and even now everybody refers to you as his dad. I don't know if that interests you, but I figure you might want to see him, and I don't have to be around for that. He's pretty well behaved now too, very self-sufficient and not so "spilly". Anyways, again, hope you have another really good week - and let me know if you ever want me to drop off Ryu.
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-SD
From: | Rohw |
Sent: | March 25, 2008 2:06:15 PM |
To: | Shelby |
From: | Shelby |
Sent: | November 27, 2008 12:18:46 AM |
To: | Rohw |
I'm not sure what to say, but I thought I should try to say something, to tell you somehow how very sorry I am for your loss. Please know that I care about you so much, and if you need anything at all, if you ever want to talk, anything, please call me anytime and I'll be there.
love,
-Shelby
Memory Can Tell Us Only What We Were
By Richard Fife
Memory can tell us only what we were,
In company with those we loved;
It cannot help us find out what each of us,
Alone, must now become.
Yet, no person is really alone;
Those who live no more still echo
Within our thoughts and words,
And what they did has become
Woven into what we are.
Date: Sun, 7 Dec 2008 02:18:51 -0700
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From: | Shelby |
Sent: | December 11, 2008 12:54:14 PM |
To: | Rohw |
From: | Rohw |
Sent: | December 16, 2008 9:34:35 PM |
To: | Ms. Dee |
Tomorrow I write my last test till January, which I have no motivation to do, but let me know if you want to go for din din or something, I never thanked you last night for dinner, let me make up for it.
From: | Rohw |
Sent: | February 22, 2009 1:47:23 AM |
To: | Shelby |
From: Shelby
To: Rohw
Subject: RE:
Date: Sun, 22 Feb 2009 12:46:18 -0700
Okay. Thanks.
From: | Rohw |
Sent: | February 23, 2009 9:01:02 PM |
To: | Shelby |
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Nov 13, 3:01am..."Oh this is the ex" not impressed when that's how girls refer to me
Nov 13 11:38am... What are you taking about ? What Girls ?
Lol I'll tell you later. Did you talk to carlo
Carlo who. Nope
Did you wnt to hang out this weekend or no?
You sure you want to do that Lol
Haha no, but when have I ever made good decisions. I don't like ignoring you. So yes or no
I'm doing homework now. So I don't know when I be done or when are you free
I'm asking yes or no
Where do you want to meet up?
I'm not driving but if you wanna meet up today I'm at the rodeo by your house
How did you get here then ? Bus ? Lol
Don't laugh! I carpooled with Shivonne. Should we make a gameplan
I can come by where ever you are and talk for bit or something
Are you sure you want to
Yes . What time is good for you
1:24... I think this is like a few hrs, ill tedxt you. Then you can do hw too
3:08... What did you want to do? I think were getting close to done
3:18... I don't know. Just chill for a bit?
3:21... K where?
3:35... Sooo... Were done. Are you coming to get me, are we meeting somewhere?
3:36... I'm eating . Right now . I will come get you after I'm done . Is that okay ? 25 m ?
3:37... Where am I picking up from
3:37... Will you drive me somewhere after? I just don't know how to do this. I'm at rexall place.
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4:15... Were just at the husky on w gretzky and 118
4:15... Coming 10 m
4:34... Should I just leave? Are you actually coming?
4:35 I'm here its just that I have to turn around. There is traffic.
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7:05pm (almost an hour and a half after he dropped me off)... I missed having you in my life
7:28... Aww are you sure about that ? I do too . You ar an awesome girl
8:24... Lol thanks for throwing the firend thing at me, I know you think it was really easy for me to move on and it really wasn't. That's why it hurt so much when you didn't reply or weren't as excited as I was. I hven't dated anyone since you and you were the last person I slept with. Its been hard for me too. I hope you have a good dinner.
8:40... It seemed like it was really easy for you. But I hope we can try to be friends. It was nice seeing you and catching up with you.
8:42... It wasn't. I'm glad you're happy now tho. Hopefully we can catch up again soon
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In an effort to make a more comprehensive account of my year I'm going to try and fill in some of the blanks.
First an update, before I forget:
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I'm so confused, I finally decided to contact Italo again, and he is really noncommittal about everything. I know htat I pushed him out of my life, well slammed the door on him practically. But I thought if he was game and I was it would work out, then it looked like I was more intereted than he was... I had to pressure him into meeting today (or setting down plans at all) and then he was really difficult to plan around, he kept pushing back the time and then running late and showing up almost an hour after he originally committed to coming. I was pretty mad, I felt like meeting up meant nothing to him, otherwise wouldn't he have tried harder to get there earlier? I was less than 5 minutes from his house and waited forever... It was really casual, lots of small talk and it was a little awkward for me. He got mad at me for how I stopped talking to him, he said that I was wrong and I had texted him when he was sleeping and had no right to freak out on him for replying the next day when he woke up, but realistically I texted him early evening and he replied in the afternoon the next day. I tried to explain that it wasn't just the one thing that made me mad, it was everything that built up and that was just to top everything off.
I had asked him to drive me to West Ed when we were done and he agreed, but as soon as I got into the car he started driving west. As per usual I had aske dhim in advance if he wanted to do lunch and he said no and then ate right before he came, which made him late to get me. I was so frustrated like I put myself out there and made myself vulnerable by trying to reconnect with him and its so unimportant to him that he brushes it off and shows up late and pretends everything is okay. He asks where he should drop me off once we get to the west end and I pretty much freaked out. He says he's got places to be, and I tell him I'm sorry to have inconvenienced him. He said that I wasn't, he wouldn't have come and gotten me if he didn't want to see me, and yet he's ready to dump me in the West right away.
We park in front of a Burger King and there's a lot of silence. He tries to pick up the conversation by asking useless questions about school and family. We talk about his car crash and I say that it's funny he still got in an accident considering he was so careful not to have sex in it (he said he wouldn't with me because it was bad luck), and then he told me "I'm not saying anything" he knew it would imply to me that he had since slept with someone in his car. why does he always have to play mind games with me? When I turned away and told him I wasn't surprised, he was a skank, he said he was joking because he wanted to see how I would react. He asked if I felt uncomfortable and I had to admit that I sort of was. He told me he was being casual and everything was fine so why wasn't I? I was the one who moved on without a problem so why was I so upset now? I told him that it was hard to see him still, and stopping talking to him before was maybe wrong but made it easier for me keep it together. He drives me crazy and it was easier to not talk to him than to be stressed out all the time. He asked if it helped and I had to admit that it did. I felt really bad after I said it ...really bad.
He said he didn't want to bring up the past, but we did, and it was really hard for me. I started to tear up and he pulled me in and kissed the side of my head. I just needed that affection, I don't know what I'm doing anymore. He was the last person I had a relationship with, and he was the last person I slept with... I haven't wanted anything else, I haven't been ready for something again. I don't think it's that I want him back, but maybe I thought I could just walk back into his life and we could be casual again, we could be affectionate again... I just don't know
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fml. So I went out on a date with this girl Jenny I met off pof, we were going to go for a coffee but she was super hung over when she picked me up so we stopped at a dive bar in the NE instead. She got out of the car and was like "what's that noise!?" hahahaha she had left her door open, and the car running... keys in the ignition on her way into the bar lmao. Whatta mess. We played pool and had nachos, had a few drinks and then we were really hitting it off so I paid the tab while she was in the washroom and then we went and picked up her dog, got Ryu and took a walk near my house. It was pretty perfect and we had the bets hug after I walked her to her car. Less than a week later we hung out and I helped her shop for a dinner party she was having, she said she would invite me but because of the people who were going it would be awkward. It wasn't a big deal we just hung out and had a great time walking the aisles together at superstore, cruising the liquor store. I got her to drop me off at Michaels (craftstore) because I needed to pick up some feathers for my Halloween costume. When we went to hug it looked like she was about to lean in for a kiss, so after a really long tight hug and some swaying I kissed her. She seemed surprised, it was really cute. She called me a few minutes after she pulled away and said that I make her nervous and she was really excited about spending time with me. It was pretty cute and I couldknt' wait till she got back from her trip. She left for Panama a few days later and was gone for a week. She called me the morning she left, at 5:30. I was waaay too tired to take that call, but we chatted a bit on plentyoffish throughout the week.
 I had already confirmed to go to a gay speed dating thing through Queers on Campus (Queer pride!) and I didn't want to cancel because not many girls show up, and I know it's important to keep lesbian interest in the club. I felt so bad because I had started sorta seeing Jenny and I thougth things were going really well, but I went and convinced myself looking for gay friends was a decent excuse and I went. I ended up being one of 5 girls there and it was supremely awkward. Especially since one of them was a girl I had talked to on pof and added on fb who TOTALLY didn't recognize me! Ugh. I stayed and entertained, sort of hosted I suppose, then I left at 930 (they drug it out as long as the gay men's side which was like 30 guys!).Â
Then Jenny came home, and she called. I was really excited to talk to her, this might be my first legitimate gf!! Then she starts talking about how some guy was creepin on her and offered her 7 grams of coke for a handjob. I know she had a problem with that sort of thing in the past, coke not handjobs, and she admitted it was difficutl for her to turn it down. Little awkward but the conversation moved on. We decided to make plans for Friday, and because she's starting a cleanse we decided to go to the zoo! Then she drops another bomb on me, she slept with a16 year old in Panama. She said the girl was at the bar and said she was 18, but after they had slept together a few times the girl told her she was actually 16. Jenny said she was really mature, but that's not even really the issue for me. Jenny is 28, which makes the girl 12 years younger than her, even 10 when she was lying. And besides that, you don't know what some stranger does or doesn't have, and what about how excited she was that we were spending time together? The second I started having an interest in Jenny I stopped physically touching Bjorn when we hung out, in group or otherwise. I try and forget about it, she was on vacation, we aren't technically dating. Then another bomb. She says she has something to tell me, she's been seeing someone for a while, and they aren't exclusive but they are intimate. Honestly I can't even remember the rest of the conversation, it was an effort just to stay on the phone. I just don't know where I'm supposed to go from here.  I don't want to hold hands, walk our dogs, I don't want to watch a movie, go to the zoo. Who is this person? Is this gay culture? I don't want any part of this. Where do I go from here...
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