On March 24,1999, my phone rang as it had
been most of the afternoon. A little annoyed
at the persistance of the caller, I answered
the phone to a woman whose voice and name I
didn't recognize but had waited to hear her
voice all of my 29 years. Her name is Kathy
and she is my birth mother! I can't recall
the entire conversation or even in what order
that everything was said, but I can say this,
it was the best phone call I could ever
receive. During the conversation I learned
that I have a brother and a sister. Both of
whom was there and I got to talk to them as
well. Along with an aunt who was also there
giving my birthmother her total support. In
the three hour conversation I was given the
answer to the all famous question "WHY".
The day of our reunion was Friday April 2,
Good Friday. I can honestly say that the week
and a half of waiting from the first phone
call to our actual meeting had me a nervous
wreck. I was on a high that kept me floating
for days. I don't think the smile ever left
my face. And it still hasn't! We made the 2
1/2 hour drive and was to meet at a public
place then go on to where the rest of my
family were at. I knew who my birthmother was
as soon as she drove up. The cloud that has
been hanging over me all my life finally
started to lift. That is the only way I know
how to explain my feelings. My 9 year old son
even had tears in his eyes! He has know all
his life about my adoption and how much I
wanted him to also know my "other" family.
At my grandparents house was the whole
crew. I can't remember when I've ever hugged
so much, but I'm not complaining, I loved
every minute. I have to point out that this
is the most loving family and the support
they all gave my birthmother took my breath
away. And of course the support that was
shown to me.
We spent the week~end with
Kathy and had a wonderful time. It all felt
like a dream and I guess it still does. My
sister even called into work so she could
spend some time with me. Saturday night Kathy
and her husband Dennis, took us to a
great seafood restaurant. And Sunday morning
Kathy, Zachary, and I went to Easter services
at my grandparents church.
Then the time
came for us to leave. I called my sister and
brother to let them know we were leaving. I
had a funny feeling in my stomach that didn't
want me to leave. Like when I left this
wonderful dream would be over, which of
course it isn't and this isn't a dream, it's
MY LIFE!!!!
In the following month my
sister and her two children, and my mother
Kathy and her husband has came to visit me.
It just doesn't seem to last very long. And I
miss them before they ever leave.
I would
also like to add a special note about my
adoptive mom. First of all I wouldn't have
wanted any other mom to have adopted me. She
has always loved me unconditionally, and
taught me to love the same way. We have a
lifetime of memories that can NEVER be taken
away. She has always stood beside me no
matter how difficult the delimma was. And I
know that as long as there is a breath in her
body that she will be there when I need her.
And it goes both ways. She is my mom and
always will be!
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