Journal Entry - 11 November 2000
Dear Mighty,
We saw you again yesterday. I am trying so hard to remain hopeful for your health. Why are you so small, little one? I feel so tortured and trapped - we know nothing more about you accept that you continue to be small - 3 weeks behind. This is basically the amount you were behind last time so you haven't fallen further behind. But you also haven't made up any by gaining in size. This was my hope - that you would be bigger, closing the gap.
Please, could you do this for us? We need your help. We need you to grow more. We need you to be ok. Please?
We just so need to move on to another place in our grieving. We need to know the joyful side of childbearing, the side where we live side by side with our children. We need respite, some goodness. We need balance. Not just more and more sadness and torment. We need to experience what most every other family experiences - some normalacy. Some basics. Some even keeling. Not all this layering of tragedy and emptiness.
I don't know how to face your absence as well. I love it when you thump and move. I can at least find a small measure of hope and normalacy in being pregnant when you do this. I become just another pregnant person instead of a living coffin. Thank you for doing what you can to help me feel normal.
Everyone has so much riding on your life, on your health, on your hereness. Sifu looks forward to a grandson in Tai Chi. We look forward to that too and try to encourage him to think about the possibility of you being a granddaughter in tai chi. Sifu has looked forward to this for years. My mom has looked forward to being your grandma, for a long time now. Years. She wants to do grandma things with you. She wants to take you to the zoo, to make pretty clothes for you. I want this too. Friends want to enjoy your company, and even more so, they want to enjoy ours. They want to squeeze your cheeks and see us mature as a family. Mighty, I am sorry that already, you have so much responsibility to make so many people happy. Its a lot for a little person. I am sorry that you are the one placed in this position.
I don't think though, that this will change. We all are ready for you, ready to have you in our lives. I know, you say, "but Mum, I am already here and will always be here. You don't have to wait for me because I am right here." Yes, I am trying to remember........You are right here. Right now. Right Here Now. I'm trying to be here now too.
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