Topic: Robert's Pennings
What Scares Me
Approx 512 words
By
Robert Bryce
I?m not scared of heights. Snakes, bugs, mice, are not a worry unless
of course, I find them in my pocket.
No, my greatest fear is of losing my children or my wife.
I don?t take this fear lightly. Instead, it?s a fear borne out of
experience. You see, I?m the sixth of seven children. And although I?m
only 44, I?ve already buried two of my brothers. I?ve also buried my
father. I won?t bore you with all the details, but I?ve seen more than
my share of dead people. Just a few months ago, a friend of mine whom
I?d known for 20 years dropped dead of a massive stroke.
It?s not that death itself scares me. I?ve written a lot about the
funeral business and understand pretty well the whole death process.
Now that I?m milddle aged, I?m getting accustomed to the idea that my
life is more than half over. I?m on the downhill pull. So I don?t worry
for myself, at least not much.
Instead, I worry that one of my children ? Mary, Michael, or Jacob ?
will die before their time, in an accident, or from some weird health
malady. I worry the same about my wife, Lorin.
I live in a nice house and have a nice car. I have some pretty cool
stuff- binoculars and computers and cameras and books and things. But
they are as nothing when compared to my family. It?s not that I simply
love Lorin and the kids. That love has instead become a physical thing.
Losing one of them would be like cutting out part of my heart, along
with a bit of lung and stomach and liver.
When we were in Tulsa a few weeks ago, we stopped by the cemetery on
our way back to Austin. I don?t go often, but I occasionally like to
stop there and visit the graves of my dad, and my brother Bill, who
died in 1984 in a drowning accident. Their graves are right next to
those of my Uncle Charles? family. In 1961, Charles ? who was my
father?s oldest brother ? lost his wife, Helen, and their two sons,
Steven and Paul, in an airplane accident.
My dad didn?t talk about Charles? family much. Charles later remarried
and had two more children. But when Dad did discuss it, he told how
after the airplane accident, Charles had gone crazy for a little while.
Understand that Charles ? who died a few years ago ? was one of my
favorite people. He was always the first to laugh among the aunts and
uncles. He was also the first to cry. His emotions were never buried. I
can only imagine that that characteristic was due to the tragedy ? that
losing his entire family at one time had fundamentally changed him.
I fear that were I to lose any of my children or my wife that I, too,
would ?go crazy? for a while. I only hope that if that happens, I can
recover. And maybe, just maybe, persevere like my favorite uncle did ?
and press on.
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