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"COPING"
I
was given a journal to write my thoughts in and that has helped me quite
a lot. In my pocketbook (purse) I carry a key chain with a recent picture
of Harlan and the key to his truck as well as his key to our home on it.
For Harlan’s 25th birthday, I had bought him Baldy, the eagle beanie baby,
since he loves eagles. In the beginning, I carried Baldy around with me
wherever I went. Eventually, I replaced Baldy with another stuffed animal,
actually more than just one!, and when I feel down, I just take a stuffed
animal with me everywhere I go. A few years ago, Mardi had given me a 'Brat'
necklace, with charms depicting Harlan, herself, and Daryl with their birth-stones
on them, and I never take that off.
Harlan’s
bedroom is still that . . . his bedroom. There are Cleveland Brown items
as well as the eagle items he collected in it. (He never got a chance to
witness the revival of the Cleveland Browns, sad to say.) Would you believe
he kept his cub/boy scout badges, belts, hats, pins, and other items?!
He had them in a zip-lock bag and they are in the same one to this day.
Mardi has some items of Harlan’s that she wanted to remember him by. Daryl
does as well. I recently purchased an angel watch which I wear all the
time so that both Harlan and my dad, my two angels, are always with me.
The
major thing we did was to purchase a memorial plague for our synagogue
with the money donated to us in Harlan’s memory. The money was placed into
the Harlan Shawn Friedberg Memorial Fund. The plague has been made up and
is it beautiful! The first two plates have also been made up for the plaque.
One plate is in memory of Harlan and the other is in memory of my dad.
The plaque has plates for names of the deceased with light bulbs next to
them. When the anniversary of the deceased’s death, as well as special
religious holidays arrive, the light bulbs next to their name will be lighted.
Our
family belongs to a second synagogue as well. The members of this synagogue
donated a Siddur (Prayer book) in Harlan’s memory to the Congregation.
Whenever we attend Services at this synagogue, we try to get "Harlan’s"
Siddur to read from. To this synagogue, we made a donation, in Harlan’s
memory, to have the Torah refurbished. What this involves is getting a
Scribe to fix the parchment the Torah is written on and to ‘rewrite’ any
portions that are illegible due to repeated use. Most Torahs have been
around for many years and are very delicate and, therefore, need special
attention and care.
One
more way of coping is by doing this site. Sharing with you all what our
family went through, and is still going through now. We’re sharing our
experiences in an attempt to alert others to the signs of drug abuse as
well as the hazards thereof. The music you hear on this site is one of
Harlan’s favorite songs, PATIENCE, from Guns n’ Roses LIES. Enjoy
it along with us, please. Also enjoy the eagles because one of them may
well be our angel, Harlan!
LIFE NOW
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