How do I know if I'm gay?

Unfortunately, it's not an easy task to identify whether or not you are gay. Most define being gay as having a strong bond or physical attraction to other people of the same gender. Others define it as a lifestyle which includes behaviors and social interaction. Being gay is not determined by what you think more how you think. Are you physically attracted to people of the same gender? Do you feel an emotional bond with people of the same gender? Would you consider an intimate relationship with someone of the same gender? Try not to fall into the trap of stereotypes. Gay people are just as diverse as straight people. There is no mannerism, music or clothing preference that can define a person as gay.


What does it mean to "come out"?

Coming out is the process of personally accepting your homosexuality and disclosing it to family, co-workers and friends. Coming out is different for everyone. Some experience a lot of pain and anguish while for others acceptance is simple. You may experience fear, doubt, loneliness, anger and even depression. That's why it is good to surround yourself with others that may be going through the same transition or who have already come out. They can be a great support network. If you don't have any gay friends or don't know anyone else coming out, there are support groups and hotlines that can offer you encouragment.


Am I normal?

Of course you are! Being gay does not define who you are or make you any less of a person. At times it is not easy being gay, especially around those that are not supportive. Nonetheless, try to surround yourself by people who do support you and your lifestyle. You will soon see that glbt people interact with each other and the world as any other person would.


When should I come out?

You should come out when you are absolutely ready! Remember, even though this may be a confusing time, you are in complete control. You can disclose your sexuality at your own pace. Some choose to come out slowly. They reveal their sexuality to a few people that are close to them, then move on to other family and friends. Often, because of many work environments, the workplace may be the last step. Just make sure you are comfortable with yourself. Once that happens, it is a lot easier to tell others.


Will my family and friends reject me or stop loving me?

Unfortunately, some family and friends do have a hard time accepting that someone they love is gay, lesbian, bi-sexual, or transgendered. However, there are many times where they are extremely supportive. Each person's situation and surroundings are different and there is no formula or way to tell how well your family will accept your sexuality. Just be strong and remember to come out to family and friends at your own pace. You can't choose your family, but if your friends do not accept you for who you are, then they don't need to be in your life anyway. You are in complete control, don't let fear hold you back.


Where can I turn for help?

You may contact us via email or go to the resource page. Glamour Pride has a social/support group for glbtq teens once a week.



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