A long goodbye
Youth football officer calls it quits, for real
By Ed Richards
Daily Press
Published December 12, 2001
Wayne Stokes means it this time. After 19 years, he
has retired as president of the Peninsula Youth Football Association. Gone to
Happyville, he said.
Stokes said his goodbyes at the end-of-season meeting Dec. 2, where he presided
over the election of new officers. Danny Spruill, the 2001 league president for
York-Seaford, was elected Stokes' successor.
Rumors of Stokes retiring have popped up almost annually
the past five years. In 1998, he announced his retirement at a business
meeting and went home a free man. Not for long. The telephone started
ringing at his home after the meeting. Seven calls later, he was
unretired.
"Since I'd given them such short notice that I was retiring, I didn't
think it was fair. So I came back," Stokes said.
Despite a health problem, he also returned for 1999 and 2000. But at the
end of the 2000 season, he made it absolutely clear 2001 would be his
last.
"I'd been seriously thinking about retiring for five years because of
health reasons," Stokes said. "I won't go into the details but I will
tell you I have a chronic, not imminently terminal, illness that I am
fighting, and I'm not gaining ground. I'll just put it this way. I tire
easily and I'm not any longer able to perform at the level I prefer to
perform."
Stokes, 55, began his stint with the association in 1981 as a public
address announcer. He then spent one year as a vice president and the
past 19 as top administrator. During his tenure, the group underwent two
name changes - from the York Youth Football League, to the York Youth
Football Association to the Peninsula Youth Football Association.
Under Stokes, the association expanded from six leagues and 22 teams to
12 leagues and 44 teams. Counting cheerleaders, the PYFA serves more
than 3,000 kids - making it the Peninsula's largest youth football
organization.
A gifted public address announcer, Stokes never envisioned spending 21
years around youth football. He blames it on his wife, Linda, and oldest
daughter, Melanie.
"It all started out in 1981," Stokes said. "My wife got involved with
the Grafton Red Raiders because our oldest daughter was involved in
cheerleading. My wife told me they were short of announcers for the
first game of the season and she kept worrying me and worrying me about
it. So we finally struck a deal. I told her I would announce one game,
one time only, if she'd get off my back."
That one time turned into a long time. Stokes announced games for the
1981 season, became vice president of the Red Raiders in 1982, and then
began his long presidential run in 1983.
"It's been for a worthy cause or I wouldn't have stayed in it all these
years," said Stokes, a 1965 Newport News High graduate.
Stokes, a commercial sales representative for Sears for more than 20
years, was a driving force behind the PYFA's Academic All-Stars program,
said Dennis Mickelson, a board member from Fort Eustis. At the
association's recent Super Bowl, more than 800 children were rewarded
for their academic work.
"Our main priority has been the education of our children and teaching
them life's lessons, things like responsibility and respect for other,"
Stokes said.
Stokes also lobbied, successfully, for a mandatory playing rule.
"He made sure the kids were treated fairly," said Kathy LaCross, a
co-commissioner with J.R. Johnson this past year.
Spruill said if a tough decision had to be made, Stokes always ruled in
favor of the kids. "And 99.9 percent of the time, it was a good
decision."
Johnson praised Stokes for being a man of his word and a good friend.
"We didn't always see eye-to-eye but whether we agreed or no, he
respected my opinion," Johnson said.
In honor of Stokes, this year's Super Bowl was called the "R. Wayne
Stokes Super Bowl." Between championship games, the PYFA presented him a
plaque and Washington Redskins jacket. He also has been awarded the
title of president emeritus, an honorary advising position for life.
Letting go wasn't easy.
"I was truly blessed with a number of excellent people around me. No one
person can do all this by themselves," he said.
Ed Richards can be reached at 247-4645 or by e-mail at
erichards@dailypress.co
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