The possible behaviors are:1. Stalking watching every move you make, 2. Tone of voice: a. Sarcasm, b. Put downs, c. Criticism, d. Interrogation,e. Ordering me to do a task he could do, 3.Intimidation 4.Double standard 5.Using power, influence and privilege 6.Verbal retaliation
There may be a more moral damaging form of bullying in the gossip and tattler; the “do gooder" who feels compelled to report you. The only problem which need to be cleared up and defended in writing is that the gossip who also tattles never gets it right. You will find yourself misquoted, taken out of context, out rightly lied about.
Begin with an introductory paragraph covering your intentions in your complaint: 1) I will present the behaviors. 2) Then I will show the damaging, debilitating effects these behaviors have had on my professional environment, sense of contentment, safety, level of comfort and overall impact on your work.
When writing your complaint or grievance, define any concepts you want to emphasize. I defined both gossiping and tattling. Both are defined as being very damaging. As you list each of the behaviors which have affected you, give examples of each behavior. Express no opinion about any behavior. State only the facts and observations. If any coworkers have ever said anything about what they had noticed, include that in a general way, without giving the co-worker’s name. Close with the hope that there will be no retaliation.
One hope is, that above all results, the bully and/or gossip and tattletale will back off for fear of administrative discipline.
