Christian Leadership Training Institute
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1-1-8-Whole Person(Acts 6:3-4)
In a secular world believers are bombarded by philosophies and ideologies which run counter to God's plan and purpose for their lives. At the same time, our earthly nature constantly wars against God's plan for our lives. If the person who came to you for help fully saw this and understood the implications of his past actions, he or she probably would not be faced with the present difficulties. Recognizing the cause, however, will help him arrive at a solution. Another failure resulting in improper diagnosis is not hearing what the person you are training is really saying. Your communication skills are important, and if there are lacking, you can develop them. Obviously, you can't be listening at the same time your mind is going ahead of what the person is saying. Neither can you listen very well if you are thinking about the responsibilities you carry and how you really ought to be doing something other than listening to the person who hurts. Take time, listen, ray, and evaluate, and only then will you be ready to respond to the question, "What do you think I should do?" Pitfalls in Being HolisticWhen holism is misunderstood or misapplied, difficulties can arise for both the trainer and the training receiver. These pitfalls need to be avoided so as not to short-circuit the training relationship. The Splitting Pitfall This pitfall is encountered when a trainer attempts to split apart the person receiving training. For example, a trainer who treats the spiritual separately from the physical and the emotional, has stumbled into this pitfall. An example is the trainer who keeps all Scripture, prayer, and talk about God separated from the training receiver's personal problems. When this occurs, the spiritual has been split apart from the physical, emotional, and mental aspects of the person. As trainer we can also stumble into this splitting pitfalls in dealing with ourselves. We can compartmentalize the various aspects of our personhood. For instance, at one time we might let emotions dominate our behavior when we are extremely angry. At another time, we might let the spiritual part of us dominate, while suppressing physical or emotional needs. A holistic perspective unites all aspects of the person, while neither denying part of self nor artificially emphasizing some aspect of self. The Ranking Pitfall This includes the compartmentalized approach, but also involves setting the compartments against one another by ranking them. The tendency for us Christians might be to rank the spiritual nature over the mental, emotional, social, and physical. To call this ranking a pitfall is not to say that being spiritual is in any way wrong, since God wants your relationship with him to be foremost in your life. But we also need to remember that God does not simply want your spiritual self. He wants your heart, soul, and strength (Deut. 6:5). God wants your whole person because we are whole persons, not parts that rank one over the other. The Perfectionistic Pitfall The perfectionistist pitfall is the most pernicious of all for Christians. Concentrating on the way life ought to be, we may continually strive for perfection. We might try to be all things to all people. We may want to be the infallible spouse, friend, neighbor, employer, employee, church member, or Christian trainer. Many of us are seduced by perfectionism-seduced into thinking that since we ought to be perfect, we therefore can be perfect. perfectionism then becomes the driving force in our lives. As a Christian trainer you need to realize that you cannot be all things to all people. Perfection is impossible. You are probably not a combined physician, business person, psychologist, teacher, farmer, provider of every need all wrapped up into one. Neither can you be a perfect trainer. Thinking along these lines all too easily leads to the perfectionist trap. Caught in the impossible mission of trying to make every aspect of your person and vocation perfect, you become dejected - even burned out - in your training and relating. The Self-Punitive Pitfall There is no question that holistic thinking and treatment is therapeutic. Holistic treatment is successful. Its benefits are obvious. Because of its positive effect, some holistically oriented caregivers feel a tremendous responsibility for their own continued health and healing. Since they take the holistic approach seriously, they know that their own physical health is largely under their control. Therefore, when a disease like cancer strikes, there is the tendency to blame themselves for failing to be in touch with their whole person, for having too much stress, or for exposing themselves to carcinogens. And if healing does not take place, there is a further tendency to blame themselves for not holistically effecting a cure. This results in self blame and guilt. These people become victims of the self-punitive pitfall. It is important to understand the grace of God and the concept of forgiveness. When Christians stand under this comforting blanket, freely given to them out of love, the Christ of the cross shoulders the pain, the responsibility, and the consequences of the pitfall. Christians are free to live train, and be trained holistically. Christian Training is HolisticIt ought to be clear by now that a Christian must be holistic. The Christian trainer follows the example of Christ, who was holistic as he ministered to others. A Christian training relationship meets people at the point of their unique needs, just as Christ himself did. A holistic Christian leader would not provide what would be considered spiritual care alone to someone in desperate need of food or water. Here, a specifically physical need, rather than a traditionally spiritual need must be satisfied immediately. tian training relationship touches the whole person. It is not limited to the physical, or the mental, or the social, or the emotional, or the spiritual. Christian trainers follow the example of Jesus Christ and cannot avoid being holistic to the best of their abilities. Christian trainers understand that the whole person needs ministry. Christian trainers understand that the whole person needs ministry. Christian trainers realize that some needs are more immediately compelling than others. Christian leaders know that God alone is the one who takes broken individuals and makes them whole. Homework Questions/Exercises1. What do you understand "holism" to be? 2. What do you think about the Hebrew idea that all brokenness in our lives is the result of a broken relationship with God? 3. People who let physical needs and desires dominate their lives are fairly obvious. Can you describe someone who lets the intellectual part dominate? The social part? The emotional part? The spiritual part? 4. Have you ever fallen into one of the "Pitfalls in being holistic" in your relating with someone? What happened to that training relationship? 5. What are some examples of how you could train the needy in your community, nation, and world in a holistic manner? 6. Broken/Whole - 25-30 minutes. 7. Causes and Effects 10-12 minutes 8. Strengths/Weaknesses - Time 10 minutes Take about two minutes to tell the things you do best." 9. Finally, close your time together with prayer for your class, thanking God for your classes strengths and weaknesses and for the overall wholeness God has given your class.
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