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In order to stop misbehavior, parents must punish their children.
It is wishful thinking to believe that bad behavior will just go away.
One of the most effective punishments is spanking, for it is briefer and
more intense than other punishments. Since spanking does not cause
any long-term damage to children, every parent should consider using it.
When using spanking remember the following:
- Spanking should be used as a first resort when your child does
something dangerous, lies, or disobeys you.
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Spanking should also be used when alternative punishments have failed to stop
misbehavior.
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Children younger than three years old should never be spanked.
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The number of spankings your child receives should decrease as the child gets
older.
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Spanking should continue to be used with children into their mid-teens.
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Spanking will rarely be needed for children in their late teens.
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The delay between misbehavior and a spanking should be as brief as possible.
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Spankings should always be given in private.
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Have your child tell you why she is being spanked to make sure she understands.
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Lay your child across your lap. If this is awkward or impossible, have your child lay face down on his bed or your bed.
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Spank only with your hand or a paddle.
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Do not paddle children younger than eight.
- Spank on underpants. If this is too embarrassing for your child, spank on pants.
- Diapers and disposable underpants such as pullups and training pants
should be taken off children before spanking.
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Have your child sit on a chair for a few minutes after a spanking to think
about his behavior.
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Tell your child you love her after a spanking--and any other time you think
to say it.
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