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I was born in Cambodia, during a peaceful animal year. I'm not to fond of pigs. They are great animals, don't get me wrong, piglets are cute when they're little just like babies, but as they get older--as you know--they grow into those big, fat, lazy pigs. Anyway, enough of me insulting my own species.
I was brought up in the agriculture part of the world and my family owned a sizable rice farm. However, not to long ago as my memories unfold, my people and I lost everything to our own heathen communist regime who wanted to purge the old generation and recreated the new. If you want to read more about this topic--check me out at my other homepage that is mainly regarding this topic: Kady's Rainbow Aura of Cambodia. I did it this way, so I don't have to bore you. Also, Cambodia is a long story.
I came to MA, US, in 1981 and started my educational kick off from 4th grade on, at Paul Revere School, located in Revere. Please don't make any bad comments about Revere because I grew up there and--I'm a pretty normal person. I skipped a bunch of grades, because of my age. I have lived in MA ever since. I went to Revere High School from 1986-1990. Then moved on to Emmanuel College, located in Boston, 1990-1994. I graduated with a Bachelor of Arts in English/Communication Arts.
From graduation until now, I went from one job to another seaching for the right job that would expose me to writing and using my creativity. For those of you who knows what you want and dream of achieving it. Keep the faith because I did. It took me three years and I've gone through many heartaches and setbacks before I could set my career straight. The trick is to be at the right place at the right time. Otherwise, one has to gain the experience SOMEHOW in order to get that position which was supposed to give you the experience and exposure in the first place. Life isn't fair but don't give up.
Now you might wonder, do I have any love life. I went out at a very late age compared to my generation. My first date was for my Senior Prom. It was the happiest time of my life. No--it wasn't because I got to go on a date! Hmmm...Anyway, My date and I won the title as one of the member of the court for the King and Queen. All of the girls were judged for our beautiful, prom dress and mine was a hit. My prom date was my biggest, first crush and the night was very romantic and memorable. From my college days until July of 1995, I kept searching for love in all the wrong places. Until one sunny day, I came across Tom. From then on, my life has never been the same. We laugh, cry, and learn together--the best part of it is--we make the most of every moment. Honestly, I love the way he loves me.
Girls, go for a guy who treats you right! Someone who can make you laugh and not make you cry. Someone who misses you and wants to share his world with you. Have fun with him--run and play together, take a walk along the beach and get to know each other. Only when you know him, will you know your own heart. But becareful, money and sex should not be part of the deal. There is a saying, "Men give love to get sex," and "Girls give sex to get love." True or not--you be the judge. I strongly believe in a give and take relationship.
Also, no matter how much you love a person and how good that person is for you--you must always remember to take a good look at yourself. Are you what he wants? Do you know what he needs. From my own experience, I often fall for someone without taking a good look at myself; at the same time, thinking that I was everything. Come to find out, I was to busy building my world around him--I forgot to polish my end.
Loving a guy is one thing, but don't forsake everything that was once--who you use to be. With my first love, I was totally head over heels for him. I waited for his calls, I couldn't wait to see him, I loved him so much--I practically worshipped him. Everything in my life was second priority compared to him. Then one day, it was over. It was an excruciating experience, yet I finally moved on. I couldn't see myself as a failure--who dies for love, esp. a love that's not mutual.
Now as I look back, maybe he was everything or maybe not; nevertheless, was I everything? No. I paid too much attention to him that I totally forgot to look at myself, as well as the big picture. A picture of us as a couple, will we make each other happy, did we understand each other or did we really know each other? Did he love me for me and did he see me in his future? The answers to all these questions were ambiquous and also NO. We hardly knew each other. Most importantly, the qualities we searched for--did not show.
Now, if you're in love. I suggest you make the best of every moment together and don't hold grudges, for this is a no, no for a healthy relationship. Also, give each other enough space to have fun with other friends--this way, you'll have more to share with one another. And you must trust in yourself, in him, and in your relationship. If there's any uncertainties, it's best to let it slide. If the person cheats on you, then I don't think he deserves you. Why waste your time on someone who's not faithful to his body as well as his heart. There's definitely a special someone out there waiting to meet you.
