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Quotes & Comments
"Curiosity makes life a constant adventure."-Sanaya Roman
"If you don't ask, you don't get."-Mahatma Gandhi
"Gender, one aspect of who we are, is not a given, but is constantly created and recreated in social interaction with others in our communities of practice. Gender is complex: there are many different ways of being a woman or a man." -Penelope Eckert
!SHIFT HAPPENS!
commentary #1: I love life. Who cannot? . . . with all it's interesting turns, great music and people unmet? There is something to be said for anticipation. As much as I gripe and grumble about any negative current situation I find myself in, I know that I will be on the top side of my roller-coaster in a little while and someone else will be on the bottom. This is not a one person ride. Our failures and mistakes, our impatience and tantrums have a place. We would be very boring people indeed if not for the spice . . . and that is all(for now).
Commentary #2: It's hard to try to fit into one particular label. Each label has its own characteristics . . . and if you have some of the characteristics of a certain group are you a part of that group? Do you sacrifice some part of your charcter to become 'someone' that people recognise? We are, ultimately, part of something that can't be defined. Is that true? Maybe, Maybe not. We all are judges. We define people by our own knowledge and ideals. Is this what evolution is? Are there some who are more 'evolved' than others? I don't think so. We are all evolving into a state that we create for ourselves. Some better than none. It's the secret that no-one tells you . . . YOU ARE PERFECT JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!!!
Commentary #3 (from another bi site): Imagine if you were half black and half white. Both colors are equally you, both have their own heritage and their own positives and negatives. That would just be something you learned to live with. But imagine if you had to choose between the two. No matter what the choice, you'd be denying part of who you were, missing what you gave up. Bisexuality is this way. I envy those who are truly lesbians, gays, or straights. Living life as a lesbian may not be the easiest way to live, but there's no inner turmoil about it. That's just the way it is, and you'd get used to dealing with the bigoted comments of others. But to be bisexual is very difficult. I've heard over and over that we're "sitting on the fence", or "confused". Maybe we are confused, but not about whether to be straight or gay, there's no choice to be made there. What we have to choose, and possibly what we're so confused about, is how to live. Do I choose the straight side of me that loves a man and wants a family, a home, monogamy, security, and permanence? What about the other side of me that will yearn for the types of relationships I can only have with another woman? So then do I choose the bi side of me that adores women and wants the intimacy, compassion, tenderness, eroticism, and oneness of having a female partner? What about the man that I love? And a home, children, mainstream job and respect of neighbors and peers? I have chosen to live life as a heterosexual, staying monogamous to my husband, but the CHOICE, unfortunately, is not the end of the turmoil. Now that I've chosen, what do I do with the rest of me? I'm still working on it, as I'm sure millions of other bisexuals are working through their own decisions and turmoil. Just know that you're not alone.
Commentary #4: I just realized how I feel about being bisexual. In metaphor, I feel as though I have moved to India. I dress the same as everyone there, eat all the delicious food, and am making some good friends there. In fact I love it in India as much as Canada. The thing is if I continue to live in India(which is most dynamic)for the remainder of my life, does that make me an East Indian or am I still a Canadian pretending to be an East Indian? . . . Or am I both? . . . or am I a Canadian living the lifestyle of an East Indian? The latter seems to feel right. No matter how well I fit in, I still have my roots. Does that make me a heterosexual living the lifestyle of a lesbian . . . some would say, Yes! This is true. But, being a bisexual encompasses all the above does it not? Being both, wherever our roots came from. Either way you flip the coin, we bisexuals have two sides to make up our whole.
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