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General
This mailing list is for those who define themselves as bottoms, boys (either male or female), slaves or submissives and those who are interested in being one, to gather in a safe environment (read no tops) to discuss concerns, feelings, and issues that are important to them.
The list focus is on bottoming, or being submissive in an SM relationship (this includes switches, but please focus on the submissive side).
All bottoms, boys, slaves and submissives are welcome.
The list is pansexual (all genders and orientations are welcome).
Tops are not welcome on this list.
Purpose
This list was created for those in the SM community. Specifically it is focused on issues that relate to submissives, bottoms, boys and slaves. This is a safe space where you can share and explore ideas, issues, past scenes, etc.Privacy
Be aware that this is a list for and about being a bottom in the SM world. Please respect other's privacy, as you would like yours respected, and help foster the safe environment for everyone.Please also remember that if you access your email at the office, your employer has full power under current law to access your incoming and outgoing email WHETHER OR NOT IT SENT ON A COMPANY ACCOUNT. This is a good thing to bear in mind generally.
Subscribing and Unsubscribing
The list is available in digest mode (groups of messages are sent on a regular basis in one large file) and normal mode (individual messages are sent as they are recieved).
To unsubscribe from this list, go to the ONElist web site, at www.onelist.com, and select the User Center link from the menu bar on the left.
This same site will allow you to control all of your subscription information on all ONElist mailing lists (changing between digest and normal modes, temporarily suspending mail receipt, etc.). If you belong to a ONElist mailing list, it's a good idea to bookmark the site.
Getting Started
You'll receive an automatic notice when you sign up (and the moderators try to send a greeting to new members shortly after they subscribe).Please reply to the notice at smbottoms@onelist.com to tell a little bit about yourself (your leather journey, where you are at in it, where you want to go with it, relationship issues, etc.).
Good Sense Rules of the Road
Don't post HTML coded messages to the list. Many readers can't interpret HTML and your message will be garbled, usually beyond recognition (it's especially annoying to those receiving the digest).
When responding to a post, quoting the original can be a good thing. Only quote those parts pertinent to your conversation not the entire message.
When responding privately to a post, remember that the list is set up to forward the response back to the list (the smbottoms address appears if you hit "reply"). You will need to cut & paste or manually enter the person's address to reply privately. Remember to remove "smbottoms@onelist.com" from the address line unless you would like to send the message to the whole list as well.
No flaming. (Flaming is responding with veehemence to someone else's post in a derogatory manner) You do not have to agree with what anyone has to say here, point and counter-point discussions are fine, attacks are not.
One of the goals for this list is to create a safe space where we can all feel comfortable sharing. Flaming is counter-productive to this. Constant flamers will be removed as they detract from everyone's ability to use this list (individual posts are not moderatred, but the list as a whole is).Be aware that this is not a dating list, or a pic exchange list (repeated misuse of the list in this way will also get you 86'd). This is also specifically designed to be space for bottoms, boys, slaves and submissives, and those who would like to be.
Tops are removed from this list as soon as they are identified (either through postings or from forwarded complaints). This is not a place to locate tops, or for tops to locate bottoms, or a dating list (if you're having problems with someone, contact a moderator).
Finally, remember that this list is what you make of it. Without your posts, the list doesn't exist.
Thanks for your attention.
