This came from the list, written by Lthrwoman. My thanks goes to her for her permission to post this message on her views of the bottom in an SM relationship.
i have a *real problem with being referred to as "just a bottom/submissive" that is one *sure fire way to get a reaction out of me. personally, if it were so easy, i'd like to see a top do it. i consider what we give as bottoms to be very precious and important. it's hard work, both physically and emotionally. i believe that we work at *least as hard as any top, and i think it is *very disrespectful to refer to us as "just..."
anyone within our community who does this, especially if it is *your own top, is very dangerous to your self-esteem and i choose to not have them in my life.
as to having someone report my actions, again i really resent that someone feels that they have a *right to report me to anyone. my Master is the one person that i am responsible to for my actions, and she has total rights to me. anyone else is an equal in my book and to *assume that they have this right crosses my bounderies, big time. thankfully my Master feels the same way and is very protective of me in these ways.
although she is Old Guard, She feels that the only person that has the right to question my actions is Herself... and i am very thankful that these are Her standards...
well.. those are my feelings.
Lthrwoman
