"You know...the family
who laughs together stays together!" she yelled at me in
her musical tone.
"Oh, that's clever, Deb...why don't you stitch it on a sampler!"
"Why don't you stitch it on your ass!"
The door slammed right in my face, and I whirled around on my
heel, trodding down the hall to find a door to slam too.
"Daddy, why are you and Mommy yelling?"
I looked down to find I'd almost plowed straight into my only
son, Luke. In my misery and half-anger, I was only inches away
from stepping right on his little toes as he stood there in the
hallway, perplexed beyond belief and staring up at me with perfect
green eyes.
The expression on his face dug into me almost as deeply as Deb's
words. I still couldn't believe he was my son. Hard to believe
I was in charge of another life when mine seemed to be falling
apart.
"Daddy?"
He reached up and tugged gently on my hand. His gaze began to
melt the anger burning inside me. I slowly bent down to his level.
"Daddy, why are you and Mommy yelling?" he repeated
almost anxiously, almost in a whimper.
"Mommy and I just had a little argument...that's all, Luke,"
I said, trying to keep fading anger from my voice.
"You aren't gonna break up...right?"
I glanced down at the maroon carpet and then back at my son. He
was staring forlornly at me...as if his whole world depended on
my answer. Hell, I was his world.
"No, Luke...no. Sometimes mommies and daddies fight."
"But why do you have to fight?"
Suddenly, I could see Debra reflected in my son...and why not...she
was half of the process. Luke's intelligence and curiosity
was just like Deb's. More than once, I'd been satisfied watching
mother and son...Deb trying to explain something and Luke questioning
her again and again. Deb had endless amounts of patience.
"Why, Daddy? Don't be like Timmy's daddy."
"What did Timmy's daddy do?" I asked, plopping onto
the carpet and leaning back on my hands.
Luke crawled in between my legs and sat on one of them. "He
said he was going to the store...and Timmy said he never came
back. Why, Daddy....why do people who love each other fight?"
Poor Luke...how do you explain to a five-year-old about divorce?
Deb and I weren't divorcing....right?
"Baby, sometimes it just happens," I heard a voice from
above me.
Luke and I both looked up to see Debra standing there behind me
in the hall. She knelt down beside me.
"Sometimes when people get angry with one another, they say
things they don't mean," Debra explained.
"You didn't mean what you said, right, Mommy?"
Debra looked at me. My eyes were shining with unfallen tears.
"No....no, Luke, I didn't mean what I said."
"See? Everything's all right now, Luke," I said.
"Not yet. Daddy, you have to kiss Mommy now!" Then Luke
giggled and ran off down the hall.
I stood and held out my hand for Debra. She grabbed it and pulled
herself up. Then she looked at me.
"Colin, I'm sorry...I'm just under a lot of stress, and I
know that's no excuse to blow up at you."
"It's all right. Let's talk it out, okay?"
As Deb and I linked hands and continued off down the hall, I saw
Luke's head peek around the door frame of his room at us. He gave
me the cutest thumbs-up and giggled at me.