Many people say to me, "I'm a Taurus, who should I go out
with?" or "I'm a Pisces, what's the best sign for me?"
While it is important that two people's sun signs be
compatible, it is one of the many considerations when
looking at the connection and harmony (or lack thereof)
between two people. Just having compatible Sun signs tells
very little. Since the Sun rules career, behavior, status
and health, having compatible sun signs means the couple
will look good together, behave similarly, and have
compatible careers. People will look at them and say,
"Okay. They make sense together." or "They look good
together." But this does not mean that they necessarily
will get along or be emotionally in sync.
As in an individual's horoscope, the Moon signs are the
most important factors to evaluate. Compatible Moon signs
between two people contribute to similar values, attitudes,
and emotional needs.
But there is so much more to be considered. I look at a
ten step system comparing two people's emotional natures,
sexual natures, communication styles, individual partnering
capacities, and the timing between them. Timing is
extremely important. If one person is in a great time to
be in a relationship but the other is not--this will make
it difficult for them to fully partner even if all else is
good between them. This is especially true if both people
are in a difficult time to be in a relationship. Hence the
saying, "Right guy, wrong time".
Compatibility is complicated, as we all know all too well.
We can love someone very deeply yet not be able--as hard
as we try--to make a relationship work with them. Or we
can have a great relationship with someone we are not in
love with. Astrology very clearly explains these dynamics.
One of my favorite things about astrology is the
tremendous peace of mind it can bring us. For example, I
have a client who was not able to fully emotionally let go
of an old relationship. Years had passed, yet she still
wistfully wished it could have been different with this man
and doubted her decision to end the relationship. In doing
her compatibility with this ex-love, I was able to very
clearly see that, although they were deeply connected
emotionally and physically, they had enormous obstacles to
overcome. They had planetary connections that cause
tremendous instability and upheaval between them. She
found this reading so validating and comforting that she
was able to finally forgive herself and see that they were
not right for each other.
I, myself, have received tremendous peace of mind looking
at compatibility issues in my own life. When a significant
relationship ended a few years ago, I looked at our charts
and saw that he would hook up with "Ms Right" right away,
but that I would be single for two years. Well....this
came to pass exactly. My ex had a new girlfriend within
weeks to whom he is now betrothed, but try as I might to go
against the planets, I just couldn't sustain anything
significant with anyone for two years. And right before I
met my current sweetheart, I knew someone important was
coming. It was all in my chart!
I recommend to people to have compatibility looked at as
soon as possible when they meet someone they like. It
can save a lot of time and heartache. If the charts
support having a relationship, a reading can help you to
know how to most successfully pursue the person.
