Site hosted by Angelfire.com: Build your free website today!

Bengali Wedding

Pre-Wedding Rituals

Wedding Piris

The piris are brought to the bride's house a day before the wedding or on the wedding day. A relative or friend paints and decorates the piris which are used to seat the bride and the groom during the wedding ceremony. When the decoration is completed and the piris presented by the proud artist, conch shells are blown and ululation taken up. Tattvas Tattvas or gifts are exchanged between the families of the bride and the groom prior during the pre-wedding and post-wedding ceremonies.

Dodhi Mangal

This ceremony is performed at the crack of dawn on the day of the wedding in the house of the bride and of the groom. About ten married women go to a nearby pond. They invite the Goddess Ganga to the wedding and bring back a pitcher of water from the pond to individually bathe the bride and the groom. Then they offer food to the bride/groom. The meal consists Curd and chiruya (a varity of pressed rice), banana etc. After this the bride / grrom are supposed to eat only when the marriage rituals are over.

Vriddhi

This is about offering puja to the ancestors of the bride and the groom. The ceremony is performed during the marriage day, in the morning. It is attended by all the family members. Alpana or rangoli is done and on it is placed a ghot with amra pallab. All the samagri or items for the puja are arranged in a baran dala. A baran dala is a silver plate containing items for puja. A 'Sri' (*) symbol is made in the baran dala. The purohit brings an idol of Bhagwan Narayan to the puja. The idol is worshipped by lighting agarbattis (incense) and diyas (lamps). The vridhi is usually performed by a father or paternal uncle. Tradition demands that the uncle and the bride/groom be on a liquid diet.

Gae halud tattva

This is sent before the haldi or turmeric ceremony. It is for the bride from the groom's house. The major item is the turmerice, which was used during the gae-holud (bathing with turmeric) of the grrom. The same turmeric is sent to the bride's house, to used during her gae-holud. Along-with the turmeric, gifts are also sent. The gifts include at least six sarees with blouses, petticoats and cosmetics to go with them. Also among the gifts are fish, assorted sweets, curd, paan, dhaan and durba. A relative of the groom arrives at the bride's house with an entourage of servants bearing the gifts. Incense is lit welcome them and conch shells are blown. The bearers are given sweets and bakshish (reward)

Snan

The snan literally means bathing. In this case, it stands for the bathing rituals that the bride and groom must individually follow on the day of the wedding. The snan takes place in the late afternoon or evening. A few married women apply turmeric and oil on the hair and body of the bride/groom. After bathing, the bride and groom must wear the new set of clothes that have been presented to them by their in-laws. The worn clothes are later given away to a napit (barber).

Sankha Porana

The bride in her maternal home follows the tradition of wearing sankha porana or conch shell bangles that have been dipped in turmeric water. After her bath she wears a new sari and wears the sankha poranas.

Dressing up the bride

This is a ritual in itself. The bride adorns herself in all her bridal finery. Her hair is tied into a bun and covered with a veil. The mukut is placed on her head and secured in place by pinning it to the veil. After her bridal makeover, a design of the mukut is traced on her face using the chandan paste. The bride must sit with the gaach kouto and kaajal laata for the ceremonies that follow.

<------------Bride with bridal Make-up-------------->

Mandap

The mandap is the place where the wedding ceremony is conducted. Two banana trees are planted at the mandap and a large alpana is made with rice paste. The mandap is decorated for the event with flowers and lights.

Different Steps of Bengali wedding