Trust is a very powerful word, at times a dangerous word. It takes days, weeks, months and sometimes years for a trusting relationship to be established. It can take one second for trust to be broken. Trust is a key element in any relationship, but it it even more important in a D/s and or BDSM relationship.

For those of you who are new to the lifestyle, it is very important to recognize the importance of trust. In the on-line world it is very easy to sit behind a computer screen and be anyone you want to. On-line relationships most of the time do not have the same aspects that real time ones do. When you are beginning a real time D/s relationship trust is crucial. If you stop and think about what your Dom or Dommes is going to do to you, you really NEED to trust this person.

Something else to consider is trust works two ways. Yes as a sub you need to trust your Dominant. In return He/She must trust you. You need to be very open and honest with your Dominant, especially about health conditions.

i admit that Master and i met online, and when we finally met face to face for the first time i was scared to death. Even though i had known this man for close to five years, i really began to wonder how well i really knew him. Fortunately, Master is a very patient man :-). We had a wonderful dinner and great conversation. Master has a way of calming me down and easing away my fears and anxiety.

The second time i met my master broke many of my own Safe, Sane & Consensual thoughts and suggestions. My master could have very easily taken advantage of the situation we found ourselves in, but he did not. i found myself travelling near the town that my Master lives in, and spending the night. Master knew of my travel plans and we decided to have dinner together. We found ourselves alone in my hotel room and Master could have taken advantage of that, however he is a gentleman and respected the fact that we had not planned a scene. i find i get very nervous around my Master, i think it is because we have not spent much time alone together. He is aware of this and does everthing he can to help make sure i stay calm and do not panic. That is one of the reasons i trust him so much. He knows me almost better than i know myself at times.

i trust my Master. Not only do i trust him not to break the limits we have already set, but i trust him to test my limits. i also trust Master's judgement during scenes. Master knows me better than I know myself at times (which is as it should be). i know that there is a time for questions, but that time is not during a scene. i also trust my master in that if i ever safe word he will honor that.

Safe words are very important, don't ever let any tell you they are not. If you are just starting out in a relationship and your Dom or Dommes tells you that you do not need a safe word. Stop and think about whether this is the right relationship for you. Chose a safeword that is not a word you would normally use during a scene. Quite often submissive get very involved in a scene and go into sub-space, many subs may be saying no when in fact they mean yes. A safeword lets the Dom know that the submissive has reached her limit or that something is wrong. Master and i have talked about having two safewords, one that is for my limits having been reached. The other safeword would be more for letting him know that i don't want the scene to stop, but there is a problem (such as leg cramps) and he needs to re-evalute things.