Love, Romance and You Know What!

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Love, Romance and
You Know What!

Marriage and Sex

The natural sex drive if repressed from fear of its seductive strength may take on the character of lust, but if accepted it can become a source of vigour and delight in the marriage relationship and the building of a home. it can also infuse warmth into all human relationships.
Christopher Bryant - Jung and the Christian Way

… into their inmost bower
Handed they went; and, eased the putting off
These troublesome disguises which we wear,
Straight side by side were laid; nor turned, I ween,
Adam from his fair spouse, nor Eve the rites
Mysterious of connubial love refused:
Whatever hypocrites austerely talk
Of purity, and place, and innocence,
Defaming as impure what God declares
Pure, and commands to some, leaves free to all.
Our Maker bids increase; who bids abstain
But our destroyer, foe to God and man?
Hail, wedded love, mysterious law, true source
Of human offspring, sole propriety
In Paradise of all things common else! …
These, lulled by nightingales, embracing slept,
And on their naked limbs the flowery roof
Showered roses, which the morn repaired.Sleep on,
Blest pair! and, O! yet happiest, if ye seek
No happier state, and know to know no more!
John Milton - Paradise Lost

Marriage is the price men pay for sex;
sex is the price women pay for marriage.
Anonymous

For the first time in her life Bertha Young desired her husband. Oh, she'd loved him -- she'd been in love with him, of course, in every other way, but just not in that way. And, equally, of course she'd understood that he was different. They'd discussed it so often. It had worried her dreadfully at first to find that she was so cold, but after a time it had not seemed to matter.
Katherine Mansfield -
'Bliss', in which the heroine is about to discover that it does matter.

December 1890. I copied Lyova's diaries up to the point where he says: "There is no love; there is only the physical need for intercourse, and the rational need for a life companion." If I had known this was his view twenty- nine years ago, I would never have married him.
Countess Sophie Tolstoy - Diary 1862-91

Qnce a Week! I wou'd not for the World bed with
you oftener; why 'tis not the Fashion, Sir Toby.
Susannah Centlivre - Lucinda in, 'Love's Contrivance', 1703

Horncastle: The whole point of marriage is to stop you getting anywhere near real life, You think it's a great struggle with the mystery of being. It's more like … being smothered in warm cocoa. There's sex, but it's not what you think. Marvellous, for the first fortnight. Then every Wednesday. If there isn't a good late-night movie on the TV. Meanwhile you become a biological functionary. An agent of the great female womb, spawning away, dumping its goods in your lap for succour. Daddy, Daddy, we're here and we're expensive.
Malcolm Bradbury

A man marries to have a home, but also because he doesn't
want to be bothered with sex and all that ort of thing.
W Somerset Maugham

When responding to the most intimate attention a man can give a woman, the money-minded partner will urge, "Faster, faster!", the impassioned lover will cry "Harder, harder!" but only a settled wife will remark, "I think the ceiling would look nicer if we painted it a pale pink".
Source unknown

The difference between a wife and a girlfriend is the difference
between routine acquiescence and enthusiastic cooperation.
Anonymous

She was the kind of girl who while being made love to would calmly
reflect that tomorrow was the day for cleaning the parlour.
Arnold Bennett -
Things that Have Interested Me In the Tube

A house-wife in bed, at table a slattern …
Jonathan Swift - Portraits from Life

She, while her lover pants upon her breast,
Can mark the figures on an Indian chest.
Alexander Pope - Epistle to a Lady

Sir, a man will not, once in a hundred instances, leave his wife and
go to a harlot, if his wife has not been negligent of pleasing.
Samuel Johnson - in, Boswell's Life of Johnson

Katherine: I just came back to explain last night.
Michael: You don't owe me any explanations.
Katherine: I wanted you to know it wasn't revenge.
Michael: I was kinda hoping it was.
Katherine: It was curiosity more than anything … I wanted to know what it was like to have sex with someone you weren't in love with. I wanted to see if that kind of sex was better than the other kind.
Michael: Was it?
Katherine: Well, it wasn't exactly better, but, I'd be lying if I said it wasn't good.
Michael: What was so good about it? … No-I take it back, I don't want to know.
Katherine: You know already. That kind of sex is just different … more uninhibited … more selfish … more physical.
Michael: Walter was more physical than me?
Katherine: Well, no … I guess I was.
Michael: Are you saying it was better with him than me?
Katherine: No, it's just that with that kind of sex you wind up doing more.
Michael: What, er, more did you do?
Katherine: I don't know … everything.
Michael: Everything! You never did everything with me.
Katherine: Whose fault is that?
Michael: Are we talking about the same everything?
Katherine: Well, I can only speak from my everything. Given your vast experience, I'm sure your everything is a whole lot bigger than mine.
Michael: You know everything that I know.
Katherine: … I learned even more last night. As good as that kind of sex is, it's … it's not worth giving up a marriage for.… So, if you can forget about last night, I suggest we try it again.
Michael: I can forget … can you?
Katherine: I'll try.
Michael: So will I.
Robert De Laurentis - Screenplay, A Little Sex

Extra- marital sex is as overrated as pre-marital sex,
… and marital sex, come to think of it.
Simon Gray - Two Sundays (BBC TV, 1975)

One thing we achieved was to make sex less important … good sex is very unimportant in a marriage. It is getting sex good enough so it can be relegated to the back burner in terms of a marriage. Then it can be what it should be-an extremely good way of achieving some instant intimacy in a relationship where you are up to your knees in kids and hassle.
Bettina Arndt

It is not until sex has died out between a
man and a woman that they can really love.
Enid Bagnold - Autobiography

Nobody dies from the lack of sex.
It's lack of love we die from.
Margaret Atwood - The Handmaid's Tale

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