That, however is not to fault the girls, for they truly know not what they do......making it worse, cuz you can't get mad at them.
Women torture us men in a variety of ways. Again, not on purpose. (They're so sweet in that way). You see, once you've fallen for a girl, you want nothing more than to be with them, this is for two reasons: 1)We want to work on them; 2)We just like being near them. The girls, however, don't quite understand this. So, they sometimes aren't there when we need them, or they are there but they leave, because they don't get it. And how could they? Or maybe, it's their birthday, and you hire one of your female friends to pick out a gift for you, as usual, only this time, you go with her and help. Then, you get the friend to wrap it (becuase there's no sense in you even trying to learn how to do that), and you give it to your Love. She likes it, she says thank you, but she doesn't quite understand what it is supposed to mean. Again, how would she know? And it isn't necessarily that she doesn't like you back, it's just that girls rarely can connect man's attempt to woo with the man's feelings. Such goes the torture. Guys and even sometimes other girls can read these type of things from a mile away. Your other guy friends deduct that you have to like the girl because they can't think of any other reason why you would be acting that way. Female friends frequently pick up on it and ask you about it, and pester you about it. The one female however, who never seems to pick up on it, is the only one you want to get it. Harsh. Disappointing. Painful.
Now, a big part of the problem, and a big reason why things are the way they are is that in our society, the guy asks the girl out. Which is fine, which is good. We guys truly wouldn't have it any other way. But it does place a burden on us. We are the ones who have to take the eventual risk. That's what asking a girl out is, a risk. Sometimes, it's only a mild risk as the date is just casual, but at some point the guy has to ask to take the next step. This is very difficult. Guys fear rejection...BIG TIME. Women, (guessing here) are afraid to fully open themselves up to guys they like because they, too are afraid it isn't mutual. In the end, however, the guy has to do the deed. So, the guy tries to prepare himself by looking for hints. It's a tough world out there for guys. The girls guard their actions, and the guys look for the very actions that the girls are guarding against.
Yes, it could all be avoided. We, the good guys could instead focus our efforts on the punk girls. But, 1)We'd get hurt; 2)We don't want just any girl......we want that ONE. Which is very disappointing. Truly, to get to this point the whole two-timing thing has to be far, far out of one's mind. The focus must be on the One girl. It's a tough thing. But I guess the best things in life are tough to acheive.
Good question, if I may say so myself. After weeks, or even months of torture and mental anguish and lost opportunities with other girls, one (or one's friend)might be tempted to wonder why? Why so much for one girl? Well, the thing is: it isn't just any girl. If you can hang on this long, you're either a crazy stalker or you've stumbled upon something good. There is no way to place your finger on one single aspect, it's just a combination of feelings and happenings. There's a feeling you get that tells you how it is. Now, it isn't all good feelings, you see. If you can't find anything wrong with the girl, you're probably just imfatuated, and on the road to stalking....SO GET OVER HER! Normal guys can find faults in their chicks. It is normal, and even good to wonder every-so-often "Why do I like this girl so much?" There is no answer, there will never be an answer, she is the only answer.
The Tell-All
Now, this isn't a bad strategy, it just has no guarantees. The Tell-All is where you spill your guts. You tell the girl you love her, and that you only think of her, and that you can't see any way these feelings are going to end anytime soon, and that your only option is to do whatever it takes to win her. Now, one possible outcome is that she feels the same way, and you ride off happily into the sunset. The other option, however is that things don't click. Now, most of the time, if you are really sure about the whole situation, she won't be mad at you. This is because she wants you, and she knows it....she just doesn't know that she knows it, or she doesn't want to acknowledge it. That is okay, because you've planted a seed, and hopefully, someday it will hit her. But from that point on, we're sorry to say, we don't know. Maybe you need to remind her that you love her every once in a while, so she doesn't forget. On the other hand, maybe if she's capable of forgetting, she's not right anyway. This is all very difficult.
The Get Mad Routine
This is one that makes the guy feel good about himself. This stratey suggests that when the guy is tired of waiting for the girl to admit what she knows is the truth (that you two are meant to be together.....at least for the short-term) he simply chooses to be mad at the girl (that is, as mad as he can be). This strategy employs third-grade-type tactics such as ignoring the person, and well-basically, just ignoring the person. The downside to this is that the girl will either not notice that you are ignoring her, or realize you're mad but not realize why and avoid you because she's scared. Then, if and when the silence is broken, you can't be mad at her because you like her so much. Now, don't get me wrong, in some cases it will work. It will work if the girl is smart enough to realize how much she misses you, AND, and this is a big "and", she is able to put it together that the reason she misses you so is because you are "star-crossed" as they say.
The Jealousy Route
As you might suspect, the idea behind this route is to go out with someone else, or make the girl think you're about to go out with someone else in an effort to force her to face the fact that she wants you. It's like a squeeze play in baseball. Now, there is really only one way this can turn out well, and it is probably not what you are thinking. The good ending would be if you start going out with someone else to make the first girl jealous, and realize you like the second girl better. Then the two of you can go on happily. Plus, even if it doesn't work out, you can get your mind off of girl #1 for a while, and that can't be bad. After all, you're not the one who needs the realization. This plan is dangerous however, if you cant bring yourself to actually go out with someone else, so you choose only to start rumors about you liking another girl. This is obviously bad, because even if it does make your Lady jealous, and she wants to go out with you, there is a good chance that girl #2 will like you also, and she (and her friends) will not be happy at all when they find out that you were only kidding. The whole situation could even result in your Love getting mad at you. That wouldn't be good. So, in the end, the best advice if you choose this plan would be to go ahead and commit to going out with someone else. You can't do this one halfway. And who knows?, maybe it will even work! Just don't be on it.
The Wait-And-See
This is the most painful strategy. But maybe the best (at this point, we don't know yet). Maybe in the end, all it comes down to is waiting. I mean, maybe the girl only needs time to put it together. Or, maybe you both need time to build a foundation for this relationship. The problem is that is takes time. During that time, the girl could go out with someone else. While this may temporarily be bad and gut-wrenching, it may be good in the end. When (if ever) they break up, she will have a better idea of who she wants and needs, and assuming you're the one for her, she will then be closer to going out with you. Even if she doesn't go out with someone, though, time is good. On the flipside, however, she may again, forget. Which raises the question of "Do I remind her?" again. And again, it's real tough.
At this stage, neither Jared nor Jeremy knows what the best answer is. But we can assume. Chances are, it is different for everyone. Chances are, if it's meant to work out it will. Maybe in the end it doesn't matter what strategy you use. Maybe it's all about timing, maybe it's all about fate. And maybe, just maybe, it's all about love.
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