Doris It was in September of 1999 when my oldest daughter very quiet like told me her father had put his finger in her. I imediatly notified the DFS office and had it investigated.They found probable cause and sent the information to prosecuter no investigation done.Again the perpetrators other two children accused him of different sexual acts with them,when again investigated DFS found probable cause and reported it to the prosecuter,and again no investigation was done.I in return have withheld visitation foreover a year.Now I have a court date in April of this year to be held in contempt for going against court ordered visits.The perpetrator has yet to be prosecuted and has never even spent one day in jail for what he has done.I am told he has rigts.I beleive my children also have rights.My attorney says I wont go to jail,but the father may gain back access to the children.My big problem is his visits he had before were supervised by his mother because he lived with her.If he did it then I feel he will do it again and it scares me to no ends that it could be worse than before!If you think you may be able to help or maybe you have been where I am,please help me all information is better than none!I have tried everything I can think of to figure this out everything leads to a dead end.YOU can notify me at corkyDEC@aol.com
Deborah Mujica Donald Dykeman is a child molester that has slipped through the cracks of justice. He goes after children under the age of five. Victims who are too little to testify for themselves. Our justice system has failed my daughter and the other victims of this man thus far. He now works at WalMart super store #955 in Apopka FL. I have told management about him but they consider him innocent since there was no conviction. Children under the age of 5 do not have the knowledge base to be able to make up a story like he put his fingers in here Mommie. Please help me make other parents aware of the child molesters that skirt the law and intimidate their small victims.
The sex offenders on the list are only the ones that were convicted. But what about the victims who are too young to testify in their own behalf. Their abusers are still walking free to do it again. Who will hear their voices. Who will help them put a stop to this type of victimization.
I will, will you? diamante55@aol.com
Crystal I just recieved a call from my son's First Grade teacher asking me if he has been around any new or if there was something going on that she should be aware of. I told
her no, and she preceded to tell me that my son has been a little with drawn at school for about a month and has been very serious with his school work and also a little
depressed. She also told me of two seperate instances that had occured. While my son was at his desk, he had his pants unzipped and had his hands in his pants. The 2nd
time was the same,and when called to the front, he could not get up because his pants were unzipped. The teacher spoke with him and he understands that that is not an
appropriate thing to do, but said nothing else. I'm afriad because the father and I are not together so my son lives in to different homes. My sons father comes from a
sexually abusive family. How am I supposed to bring this up to his father with pointing fingers? And is this normal and I am just taking things out of contrast? I am
scared and desperatly worried for my son. If anyone has advise please e-mail me, or pleae call me at 858-874-8646, my name is Crystal. I will be glad to except any
collect calls. Thank you
Patti Nielsen I am so angry right now it is a good thing I don't know his name at this time, I know I would do something foolish. My 18 year old daughter confided in me last week she
had been molested by our next door neighbor when we lived on Patricia Drive in Chico, California. When we lived there it was between the years of 1985 to 1989, she was
between the ages of 3 and 7 yrs old! My poor baby! I can't remember his name, but am in the process of researching that info. The only sign I can remember she had back
then was, she didnt want me to see her undressed. She always seemed so happy. It wasn't until she was an adolesant that she started having terrible problems. She was
so different than my other three children. She became very depressed, self multilated by carving her skin and punching holes in her bedroom walls. ( I didn't find those
holes until we moved and I removed the posters from her wall.)She has an alcohol and drug abuse problem. She can't hold down a job. She's had a terrible time with her
sexual identity. She confessed she is living a gay lifestyle now. She expressed an aborence towards men. That is when I asked her if a man had ever done anything to her
sexually? She started screaming at me, "YES, YES, YES!!!" Then she broke down and cried and told me a little of what she remembered. She said she had blocked it out
and didn't want to remember any more of him and what he did. She said the memories she does have make her sick. She even tried to appoligize to me for letting it
happen. I couldn't believe my poor little girl has gone through all of this pain by herself for so many years. I thought maybe her problems stemed from the death of her
father when she was 8. She adhored him so much.I have tried so many times in the past to get her help and want to get her help still. She refuses. I mean she violently
refuses. She distrusts people very much and won't hardley talk about her problems with anyone. I want to know what I can do to help her? Even though she doesn't want
me to pursue this man, I feel it is neccessary to find out who he is and to report him. Even though it has been over 11 years, I need to find out if he has done this to
anyone else or is still doing it??? How do I go about such a search? I know I can search his name on the offender search when I find his name. But is there anything
legal that can be done after all this time? And how do you help someone who doesn't want help? My baby has been emotionally scarred for life. Please, any info would be
appreciated. Please write to CountryRose1@aol.com
Paula Alvarez I would really appreciate any information on statistics or awareness on child molestation. I am a student at Modesto Junior College and I have a persuasive speech on
this topic. I chose this topic because it is something that really interest me and if I could I would like to prevent it as much as possible. Me email address is
Pa19ca@aol.com. Or my mailing address is Paula Alvarez 921 Martin Luther King Dr. Modesto Ca, 95351
Thankyou so much for you time. Pa19ca@aol.com
Countryrose1@aol.com I have an update to the message I wrote last week. The name of my daughters molester is Roman Guerra, he was living in Chico, California. I found out he has served 9
years in Folsom prison for raping his step daughter. He is out now. I don't want this to be the end of it for him. He needs to pay for the crime he commited against my
daughter 11 years ago also. Help me. How do I go about this?
Countryrose1@aol.com
Jacey Wever When I was twelve years old until the time I was sixteen years old, I was molested by my uncle. I reported it when I was seventeen and had a lot of work cut out for
me in order to put him in jail. Because of the time between the last time it happened until I reported the crime, the police said I had to case unless I could prove it. So,
I called him and recorded a message where I got him to admit what he had done to me in a round-about way. He was sentenced to a year and then three months in rehab
but only served eight months including both jail and rehab. For the record, his name is Mark Meekins. When people read this page they see that they are not alone in this
tragedy. I'm not asking for help because I did what I had to do already. I am simply asking for other people to not be afraid to do the same thing. Make your voice be
heard! And if you need someone to talk to do not hesitate to write me. I will always respond.
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pss1967@aol.com I feel the need to tell my story. Wen I was six years old I can remember my father touching me in places that he should not. Even at six I knew that this was not right, but he was my daddy and he said that it was "Our little secret".This went on for years and I never told anyone. I look back now and wonder why nobody could see the signs. I had only a few friends, and I was quiet and withdrawn. I would go anywhere so that I was not left alone in the same house with my father. If someone would have noticed maybe my life would be different now. I had a steady boyfriend at 15 and was married at 16. Of course that marriage did not last, I was divorced by the age of 22. I then lived with a man that was abusive for 2 years and had a daughter. We broke up and I found another man that was abusive. This one I married. After 5 years and another daughter we are now divorced. I have confronted my dad and he is very sorry for what he did, but that really does not change the past. My mom still does not know, and I will probably never tell her. We live close to my parents andit's very difficult to tell two little girls that they can not go fishing with their pappy. After all he is a hero in their eyes. I have always been able to come up with something to keep my girls away from dad, and soon I will tell them the truth. I have taught them that their body is personal and that no one has the right to touch them. I feel confident that If God forbid anything was to ever happen, I would recognize the signs. I had counseling in the past, and I will be going back soon. They told me that when my daughters reached 9 or 10 that one day I would look at them and a flood gate of emotions would pour out. They were right. I can see myself in them and it is harder ever day. The best advice I can give to anyone that has been a victim of sexual abuse is please tell someone as soon as you can, and get help. As far as our children are concerned, I believe that they should be taught from a very young age that their body is private, and if that privacy is invaded they should not be afraid or ashamed to tell.
pss1967@aol.com
s My sister has told me that my husband has touched her bare butt. He has admitted it and said that he does not know why and has never touched any one else should i believe him
s
hh@pgri200691@aol.com i am in the middle of a divorce. my husband is a convicted drug felon. i left him because we were doing drugs and i had a beautiful little girl who was suffering because of it. i wanted to get our lives back and he did not. i thought my daughter and i would be safe from the bad life when i left and got straight. i got straight and am trying to deal with alot of guilt. then she tells me that her papa made her put her hand on his private!(my husbands father) this is a man i loved, he was like my father, i couldn't believe it, i was shocked!!! but i had to believe her,i am her momma. so i told her daddy, he was out of town at this time but his immediate reaction was, "go get her, and dont take her back over there until i get back. (they would keep her during the day while i was working, and it was his visitation week) i contacted cps told them the whole thing, i signed a paper stating i would not let her be around him, i thought she was safe. the investigation was turned around toward me, i became very scared for my baby's safety. this has blown by and my husband was keeping her away from him. now he has lost his job has no home, aand i found that the last visit he had with my daughter they stayed at "papa's" house. i found this out when i was giving her a bath and her privates were terribly red, and then she said, "momma, papa did it again"!! I can't eat, I can't sleep, i want to call cps again, but from what i've read here and what happened before, i do not see where i can aquire safety for my baby, she's 5! i feel god will deal with papa, but i must protect my daughter! what can i do? the system sucks, and it's our baby's who suffer!!!!!!!!!!!!! hh@pgri200691@aol.com
Melissa Hi,I have a 2 year old son and I dont think he was molested or anything but,He is ving some weird behavior lately that makes me wonder if something happened at all.Lately he has been humping things like the couch or toys or even me sometimes and makes this weird breathing noise when he does it.I have no idea were he could have picked this behavior up at.Is it normal for a child to act like this at his age.He is only 2.I have saw no sighns of sexual abuse on him at all.I am basically around him all the time but i am just worried.Can anyone tell me is this normal or is this something i should worry about,please write to me please with any advice any of you have for me at missmommy185@aol.com. I really would appreciate any help i can get with this.thank u
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