June 2002 Rants

6-28
Hey guys, well its night time, but I don't have a lot of time...I got some emails out tonight, more on the way tomorrow, just trying to find some time- I'm exhausted at night! And also, I think I've been depressed the last few days, maybe even weeks. Just don't feel like myself...some urges have come back, but been ignored. But I haven't felt like this in a while and I'm just...depressed. Not quite sure what to do about it, I try to get up and happy and everything, but nothing works. I think I'll just ride it out and hopefully things will go back to normal. So that is what's been going on with me except for my jobs and everything. Hopefully by the end of the week, I'll have a really good rant, I've got something in my head but haven't really explored or expressed it, so we'll see! So all I've got now is that I'm depressed and I'm riding it out, I won't give in to urges etc.
And as always, if anybody needs me, I'm here for ya, just IM or Email or leave me a message in the guest book...oh and the message board too! Hope everyone is doing well and take care!

6-28
Hey guys, just to let you know, I am babysitting two kids for four days, so I won't be in touch as much! Please bare with me. I have emails ready to send out which I will do tonight! So, I promise that I will have emails tonight and updates and everything!!! Take Care guys

6-25
Quick announcement- Message Board is up and running! Hope it helps ya'll out in some way- now you can listen to other people and not just me! Lucky you! j/k. Anyway, seriously, I really hope you guys like it and hope it helps. Let me know if you have questions, comments or anything, regarding the message board or anything else.
Also, the new poetry page should be up very soon so watch for it- also, I know some people have sent me poetry in the past, but I can't find some of them. So if you know you sent one in and its not there, let me know and send it again! Sorry if I've misplaced it! Well that's all the announcements for now...as always, let me know if there is anyway I can help you guys, email me, IM me, leave a message on the guest book or message board- I'm here for you guys! Take Care.

6-18
Well its been a while, or at least it seems that way, since I last put something up here. And my brain has been turning idea’s around in my head. I’ve been reading up on a book called Waking Up, Alive, which of course is about suicide. That was pretty interesting. I’ve read a couple other psych books, each giving me different perspectives. But I finally settled on the topic of this rant:
The Mask.
The mask I wear is many. I can be what you want me to be. You say jump, I say how high. I do not wish to cause trouble, only wish to please. You ask me how I’m doing, I say just fine, no reason to bother you with my troubles. The world see’s my smile when deep inside I feel nothing, empty- so many emotions bottled up, I’ve lost who I am, what I am and have no idea how to really live. Some people can slam doors, pick fights, exercise their emotions out, and even talk about it. Me, I wear my emotions on my body, the marks I possess screaming to be heard, wishing I could just say the words to end my pain. The mask I wear is what gets me through. I cannot others see me as weak…I am supposed to be the strong one. The one that is there for everyone else but me. My smile lets everyone know I’m all right, no problems here. My smile deludes my heart into thinking everything is ok, this is my world and how its going to be. My laugh is heard so much, tears are never seen, or noticed. My booming voice is loud above others so they may not see what I think in my silent moments. I take control, I’m a leader, so that others won’t see that I’m weak, that I really just want to be accepted and allow to be completely human. I succeed so that others don’t see how worthless I really am. If I fail, it only cements my worthlessness.
I wear my mask every day, every hour, every minute. Even when I put the blade to my arm, my mask says its ok. This is my release, this is my prison. The world see’s my smile, but they do not see me. They don’t see my true feelings, don’t see me weep inside, wishing I was good enough to live. They don’t see how I fight myself every minute of the day. Don’t see how I can’t look at myself in the mirror. They don’t see me bleed in my weakest moments- the only for me to feel, to know I’m real.

The world see’s my mask, but they do not see me.

Ah, well that is what I’ve got to day. Just kind of spewed out. Lately I’ve been feeling…I don’t know how to put it, but its different. This week I’m kind of dragging along, going with the flow and not really feeling. I feel detached from myself. I hope it goes away, just think I need some time, sleep and caffeine! Well I hope everyone else is doing just fine. As always email me anytime or leave a message in the guest book! Take Care.

6-12
Well, I wrote a rant on the 8th but never got the chance to post it, so I’m posting two tonight- that one and this one. Not much to report today really, though. Just been kind of relaxing the last couple days b/c that’s it for the summer before I start working my 14hr. days. That’s going to be some tight weeks. So if it takes me a little longer to answer emails, that’s why. But rest assure I will answer them. Just indicate on the email if it is urgent and you need a reply soon- those I’ll return ASAP.
So my days are going pretty well, not many revelations, but I’m sure I’ll have one soon. I’ve been thinking about a few things, but I’m not ready to share yet because I don’t have it into words yet. For the first time in a while I thought about cutting. No particular reason, just popped up and then was gone. But the memories are still raw and of course there are these scars…
Anyway, I’m doing good and should have some good stuff for ya’ll later. For now, enjoy what I wrote on the 8th. Take Care

6-8
Ok, I’m slowly catching up on emails- I got most of ‘em out today and yesterday, so I hope ya’ll liked ‘em! But seriously, I love getting emails and messages from everyone…whether you know it or not, this site and the emails help me just as much as it helps you. And thus, I have two announcements. I’m adding two new pages to my site, hopefully in the coming weeks. One is of course for others poetry- I finally began to have a list…though I think I’ve lost some over the months…so if you want to add your poetry and you don’t see it on the page, just email it to me and I’ll get it up there. And for the newest thing, I think I am going to do a page where you guys get to talk- like I’ll have a section where people can quote on different things, such as stopping, the urges, how family members felt etc….that way everyone can get a feel for what everyone else things instead of just my thoughts, which I know everyone just loves to hear (j/k). So that is my plan thus far…now for achieving that- lets hope for the best.
Now on for some ranting stuff that I really haven’t done in a while. So here goes. I recently got two new jobs!! Hurray…one is as a camp leader for a day camp and the other is working at a Teen Center (in the bad part of town so to speak). So on Tues. Wed. and Thurs. starting in July I will work from 9 am to 9:30 pm!! Wahoo, 12 hour days. Its going to be rough, but I wanted these jobs- by the way, my morning job is working with a girl that has some motor skills problems do to a hip injury. So I will be very very busy. So I was thinking about these jobs and why I got them…by the way I also baby-sit, do office work and baseball instruction. When I first got home in the summer, my parents were on me for all of May to get a “real” job. I was only doing baby-sitting, office work and trying to get an autism job at the time. But I kept telling them I knew what I was doing- I was applying for the two county jobs etc. and was going to get this job working with the young girl. But they kept hounding me and telling me where I should apply, but I kept telling them I wouldn’t be happy working there, it does nothing for me etc. Whereas the jobs I applied for will help me in the long run (this young girl’s mother is the Director of something at the school of Autism in Richmond, and the teen center job assures me one of next year- so its good for getting my foot in the door, not to mention fun). So when the job offers came, I jumped on them…but I realized that I was desperately just trying to impress my parents, like see I told you I could do it. And I know they are proud and they have apologized for not believing in me…but it still hurts that they didn’t trust me in the beginning- I mean I’ve never been lazy, never slacked off…I have always been a hard worker, so why was this any different. So that is weighing on me a bit I suppose, b/c it really did hurt. And then- you won’t believe this- my mom told my grandparents (b/c she is proud of me) and my grandparents were like that’s nice, but let me tell you about so and so (my step cousin, who my step grandma thinks the world of, but they live in an aloof world and don’t know hard work) and it turns out her job is driving like 50 year olds to places, leaving them and just coming back later to pick ‘em up. And she gets paid $150 bucks a week!!!! Hmmm…girl with one job pulling in 150, other one with 3+ jobs pulling in 250 or so a week… I work so damn hard at getting people to like me and think that I’m a good girl and sometimes I wonder why its worth it…but then I know that these jobs are for me too- I wanted them and I went out and got them…but still I feel slighted. I just want my parents to believe in me- I mean what have I done to make them think otherwise (ok so depression, suicide and cutting…) but I’ve never been one to slack off…I’m too busy trying to be perfect. But I know that won’t happen…I know I can’t be perfect and I don’t think that I am…but that doesn’t stop me from saying yes to everything and taking a million jobs just to please someone.
I guess as you can see that I was really hurt when my parents didn’t trust me to get a good job. I work damn hard at everything- I do my jobs, be a sister, daughter…and everyday of my life I am faced with Depression, my moods, my scars and my thoughts. Whew I’m exhausted just thinking of it all.
By the way- I have finally found the anthem for me- Superman (It’s not easy being me) by Five For Fighting- you guys have to check out this song and you’ll know me in a sense. Also Pink’s new song, Don’t Let Me Get Me…besides the part about being a delinquent and parents not liking her etc. the basic message reflects me, but really Five For Fighting: selected lyrics: I can’t stand to fly/I’m not that naive/I’m just out to find the better part of me…Wish that I could cry/Fall upon my knees/Find a way to lie about a home I’ll never see/ I t may sound absurd/But don’t be naive/Even heroes have a right to bleed/I may be disturbed/ But won’t you concede/ Even heroes have the right to dream….Up, up way away from me/Well its all right/You can all sleep sound tonight/I’m not crazy…or anything.
Damn that’s a good song…as for Pink:" Everyday I fight a war against the mirror/ I can’t take the person staring back at me/I’m a hazard to myself/ Don’t let me get me/ I’m my own worse enemy….Don’t wanna be my friend no more/ wanna be someone else/… Doctor, doctor won’t you prescribe me something/ A day in the life of someone else
And while I’m on the subject of songs- check out Wonderful by Everclear- damn good song by kids going through a divorce, I felt myself in it….oh yeah and Reflection by Cristina Aguilara is a damn good song about hiding who you are and trying to break free- in a sense- trying to be loved for who you are (which is what I strive for)
Ah, well I think I am out of thoughts for today. I’m doing pretty well, but of course I’m not taking the time to really have some down time, which I think is a good thing, but truth be told I wish I was seeing a therapist, but I just don’t have time…can’t wait for college, that is my first order of business! Not a day goes by that I don’t think about cutting, but its not always an urge…I have these scars that are reminders…and reminds me of how far I have come and I have to smile to myself. I could be six feet under right now, my parents picking up the pieces and wondering what went wrong…instead I’m here today, telling them what went wrong and I’m putting what once was wrong, right. And I’ve never been so happy to be alive than the times right now. As I’ve said in the past…I truly was given a second chance at life and now I’m taking that second chance and running with it. This is one chance I’m not going to waste.
So I hope everyone is going well etc. and as always, if ya need me, I am here and I’m caught up on things! Wahoo! And never ever hesitate to send emails guys- I read and respond to all of ‘em and I don’t mind a bit. Its just as much therapy for me as it is you. Any way, I’ve talked way way too long. So catch ya later. Take Care

6-5
Ok, I just wanted to let ya'll know I'm a bit backed up on everything, but I promise to answer all emails and messages on guest book! Just might take a few days! But I plan on getting them all out tomorrow sometime! If you really need an answer fast, just let me know and I will do yours ASAP.
I'm doing very well right now, but very busy with jobs! Right now I'm doing some office work, babysitting and baseball instruction...then in July I have a hectic schedule because Mondays I work from 9 to 6:30 and then Tuesday, Wed. and Thurs. I work from 9 to 9:30!!! I will be quite the busy bee, but hey, its money in my pocket. And I think its good for me to stay busy- won't have time for my thinking to get me in trouble. Based on my schedule I won't be able to see a therapist, but when I get back to school that is a priority. I need to prevent stuff from happening instead of intervention after things have crashed. Therapy has really helped me and I'm in no way "healed" yet. Still got some unfinished business. Its' probably not the best thing to just avoid it this summer, but its the best I can do...plus I'm cut free- so I think I'll survive!
Hope everyone else is doing well...as always feel free to email me, IM me or leave a message in my guest book- I do respond to each and every message!!! So ya'll take care and talk to you later.


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