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Meeting the Jehovah's Witnesses

Joining the Watchtower

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Expelled! Shunned by God

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I was foolish.  That's why I left. I am about to be reinstated withing the next six weeks and I've never been happier. 

I am a Christian who is dating a Jehovah's witness. She says she is no longer a J.W., but still believes in the Watchtower doctrine. I am deeply saddend that she has ended up in this organization. I really didn't know who anything about them till a year ago. I wnted to know what was so good about them . I thought, maybe I was missing out on something. After I did some research on the watchtower and found out about their doctrine, anger set in toward them. I knew she had been spiritually abused. We have been dating for 14 months. All is going real well, except, in certain moments where we have senseless arguments over Bible Scriptures.
I do know the Bible well,but cannot get my words through. I have read a few books on JW's and fully understand why I am unsuccessful. It is hard for me to not be angry at the Watchtower for misleading the woman I dearly love. I do pray a lot and that does help. I hope someday, she will see will open her eyes and mind to what having a relationship with GOD is really all about.I am planing to start a Christian ministry(a non-denominational church) one day, which is the reason why I am worried. I
don't want my relationship to end because of this unjustified situation. We have been talking about marriage, but I am fearful to go ahead as I do not want to argue over Bible issues for the rest of my life. Do you know of any ex-witnesses in my area (Clifton, New Jersey) who we can become friends with, so perhaps, she can realize that there are many other good people in the world , and they don't have to be JW's to be friends. We do lack friends since I've recently moved to the U.S. after having lived in Italy 20 yrs.If you would be so kind  to  also leave a number that I can call and speak with you(or another  ex-JW)about my situation? Thank you for having read my letter. Any help will be appreciated. Take care, Stay well, and Smile...it may be contagious!

It's never to late you know.  Remember that it is an organization that is run by a perfect God.  But that all men are imperfect. If any of the brothers have stumbled you, they will have to answer for it.  He is a god of mercy and righteousness.  He is on your side.  Come back to him.

Hi!  Thanks so much for your testimony.  I have a neighbor & new friend (whom I met in a Bible study) that recently met a JW.  She met him at a bar and is dating him now.  He hooked her up with a JW gal that meets with her weekly for hours.  She has left our believing church for the JW's.  My heart is so sad for her and her daughter!  She has swallowed the deception hook, line and sinker!  I guess I question if her commitment to ever accept Jesus' free gift of eternal life was ever sincere as she was never peaceful with it being "free" and would run from God instead of to Him when things got tough.  She was a new believer (less than a year).  In fact, she was deliberately walking away from God and went looking for a man (she is divorced) the night she met this JW. I guess its kind of like Jonah...when we choose to walk away
Satan will always have "a boat" available.  I am the mother of three children ages 5 and under.  My heart has been so burdened for my friend, Millie, that I have stayed up late in the night researching the JW, studying the Scriptures and praying.  I wish I knew His Word even better.  I so want it etched on my heart.  But their bazaar doctrine is so confusing to discuss. (Plus I just finished studying on how to witness to a Mormon..so my brain is on false doctrine overload) I told her I would search the Scriptures and talk with her, but not with her JW friend present as I knew she would have her memorized JW answers. I am solid in my faith in Christ!!!  Anyhow, your testimony filled me with hope for Millie.  She is a heavy smoker.  I'm not sure if it is right, but I have thought to pray that smoking would be a hinderance to her. Whatever it takes Lord!  I will continue to pray.  I have not argued with her, yet have told her I think the JW's are a cult and why, but that I continue to love her and be her friend.  Was that wise or should I just have avoided the "cult" comment all together?  Is there anything that I should be aware of or cautious of when discussing these things
with her?  When I had the Mormons in my home to share Christ I felt like I had entertained Satan.  Wasn't sure whether inviting them into my home was a wise choice. Thanks again!

I was raised as a witness from birth. Unfortunately, I, to this day do not feel like my parents set the best example for me and my siblings. my father "shoved" the truth down my throat. (almost Literally) I need to see what is was like to be on the other side for a while. I have 2 children, recently divorced (husband committed fornication). Now, I am trying to piece my life back together, and pray it isn't too late to return to Jehovah. Please reconsider your decisions before Jehovah has his day.

I was deeply touched by your website.  I was curious this morning if there were any other ex-JW's out there who felt like I do.  I was born into the "truth".  My mother became a witness just before I was born.  I always felt like something wasn't quite right.  When I asked questions I was told if I had "faith" I wouldn't have questions.  (this is making a very long story short, I can go into more detail later)  I had a
horrible teenage life...I was molested from the age of 10-13, when my abuser confessed I was confronted by the elders as a willing participant not a victim.  At 13 I found out my father was still alive somewhere and was given no support.  As I grew I was so confused, I never fit in with the other witness children and hated the field service.
I started working at age 21 and moved out of my mom;s home.  She was controlling and although not a practicing witness at the time still was quite difficult.  I was counseled that a girls place is in the home till she gets married.  I started drawing away then.  I met my current husband at that job.  This was another "sin" because he wasn't a witness.  Well, one thing led to another and I was disfellowshipped.  A
few years later I was baptized as a catholic (grasping straws) and I finally told my mom and sister and brother this fact and it has almost been a year since I have seen or spoken to any of them.  As you can probably guess my heart is breaking.  The only thing getting me through is my husband and 2 boys and the fact that I recently found my father and am developing a relationship with him and my six brothers and
sisters I never knew about.
I am still confused about the whole situation.  If they are a faith of love why not embrase my husband not make him never want anything to do with them.  I am still seeking someway to heal.  I don't know if religion is the way and I want my children not to be mislead the way I was.  When I first confessed about my new religion, my brother in law sent me a letter filled with scriptures but no love.  My sister and her
husband stopped associating wiht me when I was disfellowshipped which was 9 years ago.  My mom still associated wiht me as did my brother till last year when they found out that I was a catholic. The weird thing was that up to this point my mom came to my house for xmas dinner and birthdays and even a party for my youngest sons baptism.  Does this seem hypocritical to you?  She is now going to the meetings again and studying and has said if I do not become a witness again she cannot be
my mom.  I still feel so lost. Thank you for listening.

Thank you for your testimony brother. My heart is always troubled when I think of all of the dear lost souls involved in the many different cults. Sometimes it seems so hopeless, but that is just a lack of faith in our Lord who has given us the "gospel which is the power of God unto salvation". God bless.

My brother in law and I were close until he broke up with his girl and became depressed.  He was working in an upholstery shop with a jw for an owner and several jw employees.  They took advantage of his depression and started in on him with their cult religion.  He married the shop owners sister who is a strong jw.  He no longer associates with me and he knows I don't approve of his choice.  How can we get him back?  His whole family misses him at Christmas and other holidays.  His
personality has changed to a judgemental self rightious jerk.  That is the one thing I really can't stand about most witnesses, they act as if they know all and everyone else is a fool. I really don't think he will listen to anything but it is worth a try.

Just to let you know, I feel for you.  I have just be df'd in September and I am now going through that process of being shunned.  I hate it and it is truly wrong.  I miss my teen girls immensely since they live with my X, who is a witness.  Take care, just wanted to say I understand.

Hello,
My name is ____, I have been studying with the Witness for about 12 yrs off and on.  I don't know why I even read your page ....I do a lot of praying and I seem to always come back to dough. As you say I love Jehovah and I love deeply.

I am not a very smart person I may add ,but I do know that for some reason I keep looking into this. I have  started up my studies again and was hoping to be baptized someday. Yet I like you feeling something is right about a few things I have learned. I could sure use help. I want to make the right choices. I have hardly no close family, but a very lovely hubby and 2 girls.I have been sick for a few years and try to grow close to the witness yet for some reason keep pulling away. I guess I do that a lot.  One thing I am sure of is that I do love. And I feel we should love everyone. But is this a one of SATINS trick to get me to stay way ...Or do I need to do more
research?? Please help me!!

Please help me to find scriptures that the JW use to disfellowship a member.

My niece is a JW and somehow years ago she got involved with the JW and she had a daughter who was very young, the daughter was brought up in the religion and was never able to participate in any of the school functions or join any clubs etc.

The daughter meet a man in the JW and married him, he was a wife abuser and she always thought it was her fault and stayed in the marriage and had a small child. And few years later she had enough and left and the JW kept him and disfellowship her. She got a divorce and would not go back to the JW and repent. She later got married and now has three children by her present husband and is in the main line church. Her mother will not see her or talk to her or see the grandchildren and it is her only child.
My niece says that nothing is going to stop her from Jesus. Not even giving up her daughter. What does this mean and tell me how this religion (JW) can justify this?

what an awesome story! I'm so glad I found your site.I too am a christian and my sister in law is a Jehovah's Wittness .Your site has inspired me and I specifically went searching just as you suggested to get the info I need to love her and her family back to the one who heals all hearts.Thank You!

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